Appreciate what you never had
It’s OK Doll, you can Dream big.
You can even dream for things that you never had.
I had to write this Substack because I write off emotion, if I don’t say it now, perhaps I never will.
So here’s you, on a Saturday night, doing whatever you do.
Here’s me, on a Saturday night, crying over this Instagram reel.
Oh, you don’t do that too?
But this reel is special. This guy is going on a date, he shows his special needs brother, his outfit. The brother says he needs to change, the guy is in a casual T-shirt. Because he loves his brother, he lets him pick out a different shirt to wear for his date. I’m sure that guy doesn’t love his new look, it’s a white dress shirt and bow tie. See photo below, his face says it all.
I had a special needs brother too, not as functional as that guy’s brother though.
I have a brother, but he’s younger than I am, the dynamic was that of older sister looking out for my younger brother during our childhood.
I wish my twin brother had lived. I know I was supposed to have someone look out for me too.
That’s why I cry at this reel because I’d give a lot to have an older brother look out for me. I can appreciate what I never had.
For me, there’s a reason that I advocate for the men so hard. Yes, there’s the degeneracy in society and the denigration of men, for which any human with a brain, knows that’s wrong. So we try to right the wrongs, we try to help.
But for me, it’s deeper than that. I appreciate what I never had. I advocate for the men because I know how important they are and how much that they can do. It doesn’t matter what I didn’t have, it matters that I know how important it is.
Today, I released my first Men’s Roundtable, my latest initiative and bright idea.
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I’ve put the best men in the world on camera with me for my Masculinity Crisis series.
These projects are my way to help, it doesn’t matter if I had help myself. It matters that I help out now. That’s what’s important.
There’s a reason why advocate so hard for the men. I appreciate what I never had. If I can influence others with my Masculinity Crisis series and Men’s Roundtable, I want to help if I can. I never had a good dad nor an older brother, but I can appreciate that those roles are important. It matters what you know and what you do.
What you know.
What you do.
It matters.
This Instagram reel made me cry because don’t we all want an older brother to look out for us. I know that guy isn’t comfortable in the white dress shirt and bow tie that his special needs brother picked out, yet isn’t it amazing he has a brother who cares.
I have a thing for white dress shirts, I just do. I like what the special needs brother has picked out, but more than that, I wish I had a brother who looked out for me too. I love my younger brother. I can also appreciate what I never had, that my older special needs brother wasn’t able to help me nor my twin brother either.
It’s OK Doll, you can Dream big.
You can even dream for things that you never had.
Makes me cry.
Good men are everywhere.
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Photo: Outfit on the left, what the guy wanted to wear on his date. Outfit on the right, what his special needs brother chose for him to wear on his date. My comment on Insta.