The male DJ on the radio, said that you used to be able to get away with going with the flow, but now women want a plan for a date.
Good.
Not a fan of the lazy losers and zero effort jokers.
If more women require better from men, that’s a good thing.
Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger was one of the first to mock coffee dates, that they were trivial and zero sum effort. She’s not wrong.
You will not value that for which you make no effort for.
Dating is about effort, women with no standards get the short end of the stick.
Yet in modern times, it’s easy for men to get the following from women.
Sex after a drink date.
Sex after a coffee date.
Sex with no food or drink at all.
The male DJ on the radio, seemed annoyed that men now have to do more, he certainly wasn’t pleased.
No sh!t Sherlock.
Of course, the men have gotten used to easy street, these lazy losers don’t want to make effort when they don’t have to.
Herein are the problems:
You cast aside that which costs you nothing.
You don’t appreciate when effort is not made.
You lose interest if it’s easy.
Don’t forget what I do. Relationships are my lane. I routinely ask men “Is she just sex” and I ask women “Would you introduce him to your family?” I often know what that man really thought of his date and what that woman is really hoping for. You keep it real in therapy if you want to get actual work done. I keep it real in my Life Coach too.
Sex is not hard to get, getting sexual attention is easy.
Often men and women, value each other barely at all and have no standards to speak of.
Sorry, if you have sex on the 1st date then You deserve coffee
Being mad that women actually expect you to take them somewhere on a date, makes you beta like Andrew Tate
The bad news, people are so limited socially and the PlanDemic didn’t help us with our interpersonal skills, that romance has suffered.
The good news, if you’re in the elite category where you actually have a plan, you will wipe the floor with your competition.
You cannot separate morality from masculinity.
Because at the core of masculinity is that you protect women and children.
Morality. Family. Masculinity.
They go together.
The men who operate off a moral code, who are good human beings and aim to protect are in an elite Alpha category.
Alpha is not that you sleep with a lot of women or have fake grandiosity.
Truly Alpha men are authenticly masculine, they have core beliefs, stand for something and protect women and children.
Those are the men who wipe the floor with their competition. They have a plan.
I like a man with no plan. #SaidNoWomanEver
If you’re a woman who requires effort from men, the beta males will turn up their nose because zero sum effort is their game.
Good.
You’re better off having value for yourself and having actual standards.
The men who are direct, have plans, WIPE THE FLOOR WITH THEIR COMPETITION.
Women are so enthralled by good treatment after being tossed casually after 1-night stands and giving it up after cups of Joe, that they are floored with a man who knows how to treat a woman, who has a plan.
And the men, of course they don’t want to give up that gravy train to easy town, where they spend zero and make even less effort to still get delivery sex.
When that radio DJ sounded sad that women are expecting more from men, I laughed.
Good.
There will always be the low hanging fruit and the easy lay, but those aren’t the women that men respect.
Caveat, sometimes it does work out for you. But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
To play it safe, require that man to make effort. If he doesn’t work for you, he will not value you. You cannot change Biology and Psychology
The Millionaire Matchmaker may have been one of the first to scorn coffee dates, but she is not wrong.
I am a woman, and I know what women like. I’m telling you that the man with a plan, will impress the ladies. The go with the flow types, do not.
I like a man with no plan #SaidNoWomanEver
Photo: then there’s the dumpster fire when the communist has a plan for the dementia patient #GodHelpUs
I am stealing that last meme! There's a component of sacrifice to intimacy and true love that neither men or women seem to have much anymore. They seem to drift from one meaningless entanglement to the next. I think part of this is because for the man marriage is the sacrifice: he has now pledged his resources and hopefully his sexual fidelity to one female from here on out. For the woman meanwhile childbirth is the sacrifice: she's risking her life, her body, and her means of attracting future mates in having and raising children, who hopefully her husband is the father of. Both sides have become completely unmoored and disconnected from this historical basis of union. When something is free, of course, you are the product...
I thought this YouTube video entitled Women Can't Win No Matter What explained the dilemma:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1-EuZxuReY
Works both ways too