Put your Money where your Mouth is
My credentials.
I’m a Therapist licensed for clinical work in the state of Illinois. I work at a private practice in the Chicago area.
I own my Life Coach, launched in April 2020. I’ve had clients in 17 states and Canada, can see anyone via tele-session no matter where they are in the world.
Results.
Your results are equivalent to the work you put in.
You attract your equivalent.
Predominantly, my lane is relationships. For therapy, I’ve seen children ages 13 and up. I do not see children in my Life Coach. I help with workplace scenarios, from the easy which is a mock interview for the job that you want to the difficult which is bullying at work. But predominant, are relationship scenarios, from the easy role play on how to cold approach a woman for her phone number to the difficult which is that you’re in a no sex relationship. Relationships are the name of the game, nuance is in play. Those are my credentials, also a synopsis of how results are achieved.
For my work, talk therapy and self-talk only go so far. You must take action. I can tell which clients will make progress based on whether or not they take actions. A lot of individuals expect to show up for 53 minute therapy sessions or my Life Coach which is 1-hour in length, they want to do the bare minimum and expect results.
No Cupcake, you must do the work. It’s not the Therapist’s fault or your mother’s fault or your romantic partner’s fault, that you’re in duress and distress. Past demons my haunt you and you have skeletons in your closet, but sitting on your a$$ is not the answer. Results are in direct proportion to the work that you put in.
And by work, I mean ACTION.
Talk therapy only goes so far. Self-talk only goes so far. Both are helpful, but the real work, is when you take action.
I push this hard. For myself and my clients. You must act. You will not have the results that you want, unless you do the work.
This is a relationship Substack after all. LOVE + LUST and all that jazz.
I’m going to do a run-down, how this looks in the real world.
Women want security, they look for outwards signs of competence which can easily be showcased by that man’s job, work ethic, ambition and career.
Men want physical attraction, they look for outward signs of beauty.
These can be interchanged, of course. Women like arm candy too and men want security as well. But I’m going for the obvious, the low hanging fruit with these examples.
WOMEN:
Woman: says she’s having trouble finding a rich man.
Woman: says she needs to find a better gym where the higher caliber men work out.
Woman: says that being with this man means she’d have to support herself, he won’t have extra for her.
MEN:
Man: If he can’t fuck her, he’s not interested in romance with her.
For myself, I notice what the men are saying and the women too. I am pragmatic. My job is to help my clients get what they want. Yes, I’m a Therapist and there’s real clinical work being done. But in my Life Coach, it’s non-clinical and I help my clients get what they want, as long as it’s not illegal. I am practical.
You can’t help others get what they want, if you’re unrealistic. My Life Coach clients pay me cold hard cash to help them process, analyze, finesse and nuance to get what they want. I am pragmatic.
For myself, I don’t negate that women want security or ignore that men like beauty. I simply notice, analyze, nuance and assess to help my clients process the moves they need to make in order to get what they want. We work on what’s possible for you, but you must do the work. I am laser focused, primarily pragmatic and insistently practical in my work. That’s how you get what you want more than you don’t.
Men want to be physically attracted, and women want security. That’s what they want. I don’t argue, I work with what’s in front of me. Pragmatic, also practical.
You can do talk therapy and self-talk all you want. But if the actions are not there, you are remiss, if you think that sitting on your a$$ will net you results. Not a chance. In this life and in the real world, you must ACT in addition to talk therapy and self-talk.
Be practical. Be realistic. Be pragmatic.
I say this as the girl with stars in my eyes and I’m a Dreamer too.
But I always get what I want. By this I mean, not all the time nor all at once. But yes, I get what I want, in that I never stop. I don’t quit. That’s what I mean when I say I get what I want. I go after it, always.
That’s why I can utilize the hashtag #OnlyDreamBig and also be cutthroat in a pragmatic way. Know your limits, that’s the key.
Be pragmatic in the way that you think.
In laymen’s terms, that means working within the parameters of reality.
In even simpler terms, do the damn work.
In LOVE + LUST, it looks like this.
Women want security as showcased by competence.
Men want attraction as showcased by beauty.
OK then. Now that you know what you’re working with, you can go after what you want. You can take actions to net results.
How is it helpful to encourage the old guy’s delusions that he’s 30 lbs overweight with an average job and low self-esteem and he can go after a woman who’s 20 years younger?
How is it helpful to promote the social climber’s grandiosity when she b!tches that men have Toxic Masculinity and yet she thinks she can be a man magnet?
Both men and women, with the right attitude and actions to match, have achieved beyond what they ever thought they could. I’ve had a ring side seat to that, I’ve seen it with my own two eyes, I know it can be done. Results.
It’s not my job to encourage delusion. It’s my job to help my clients process, analyze, finesse and nuance to get what they want.
The key, know your limits.
The secret sauce, ACTION in addition to self-talk.
I push hard, for myself and my clients, that action piece because I know that results are dependent on the actions you take.
RESULTS
Your results are equivalent to the work you put in.
You attract your equivalent.
For love and life, keep those two things in mind, always know your limits. You’ll know what’s both attainable and achievable for you when you’re pragmatic, also practical.
When an individual says they want something or someone, they should ruthlessly assess themselves. WHO that person is and WHAT they are willing to do. Viola, the results. You attract your equivalent, the WHO. You do the work, the WHAT. It’s that simple.
The lynchpin, is the ACTION to net results in the real world. Self-talk will only get you so far, you must act.
Back to our real world examples, the woman wants security as showcased by competence and the man wants attraction as evidenced by beauty.
In the real world, women may want to switch their political affiliation because being a Biden supporter, will only ensure that the men are poorer. Sorry, that’s how socialism works. The rich men are capitalists: entrepreneurs, they start their own companies, own their businesses and make money. For the ladies, who want the wealthy men, stop promoting Biden economics. You need to realize that in the short run, you’ll scare off the rich men if you’re a socialist and in the long run, there won’t be any rich men left if our country goes to crime and communism.
In the real world, men may want to switch their political affiliation from being a Biden supporter, if they want the hot women around. Sorry, the females who want to kill their baby in utero, promote grooming of children via pedophilia, think it’s OK for biological males to replace them in beauty competitions and women’s sports are often not the hottest. You need to realize that in the short run, you’ll notice women getting less and less feminine and in the long run, you won’t find a woman who believes in having children and family, if our country goes to socialism.
If you’re a woman and you like competent men, stop endorsing Biden economics. Unless you prefer Coffee Dates and don’t mind splitting the bill on Drink Dates
If you’re a man and you prefer beautiful women, stop endorsing Biden economics. Unless you prefer females who b!tch that men don’t have value and who’re not overly feminine.
This is not hyperbole.
Man: do you want to check your date’s neck to make sure she doesn’t have an Adam’s apple?
Man: do you want to suffer through diatribes where women say children are a burden and they bash having a family?
Man: do you want your woman to be feminine and pretty or do you want her to act like the man in the relationship?
This is not hyperbole.
Woman: do you want your date invite himself over for hook-up sex in lieu of taking you out on the town?
Woman: do you want to listen to men b!tch that they would rather play video games on the couch than get a job?
Woman: do you want your man to be confident and competent or do you want him wearing tighter jeans than you?
If you think things haven’t fallen off a cliff under Brandon, in the 3 years of the dementia patient’s time in the White House, you haven’t been paying attention.
Neither men nor women. will make it big under crime and communism. You can forget finding a rich man under socialism. You can give up on finding a feminine woman under marxism. Not hyperbole.
Neither men nor women, will be happy if families are destroyed and if values are non-existent, under crime and communism.
It’s not enough to just sit on your laurels and be passive, a bystander in your own life.
Take action, do something to save the Republic now.
Stop waiting for others, YOU need to take action too.
This is what I personally did, before writing this very Substack. I donated $47 to the Trump campaign. I am not up for socialism, that’s for damn sure. I like women who are beautiful + bad a$$ and men who are competent + confident.
If you too, want to fight for your rights and want your country to remain free, then donate $47 to the Trump Campaign. That’s an action. It’s a sign that you’re not up for the bare minimum in your life, that you’ll fight for better.
I’ve explained to you that in LOVE + LUST, it’s not enough to simply talk it out or think through things. You must also incorporate actions. Action for results, that’s how it works in the real world.
If you want the best man on your arm or the most beautiful woman in your life, then you need to act. Don’t just sit there, do something. Your results are in direct proportion to your actions, you also get your equivalent. You want better, than be better yourself. You want a better partner, then level up, Buttercup.
It’s the same for Life and Love.
You want to live in the free world, then fight back.
ACT
RESULTS
It’s that simple.
For your romantic endeavors, know your limits and be pragmatic. Level up if you want.
To improve the romantic environment at large, advocate for freedom in lieu of socialism. Start there. Donate $47 to the Trump Campaign. That’s an action you can take, doesn’t matter if you’re married, single, straight or gay. Do something. Act now.
Put your money where your mouth is.
ACT
RESULTS
For the life that you want and to find love too.
All my respect, 45. President Donald J. Trump is the People’s President, we know in our hearts, that you’re the choice for 47 too. I’ve donated $47 to your campaign today, 1st time donor. I encourage everyone in America, to do the same.
You as a man, want choices for the most feminine and beautiful women on the planet.
You as a woman, want choices for the most competent and confident men in the world.
You will find intangibles and core character too, but you won’t find that among the degenerate. Sorry, the demoRats will ruin your finances and your romantic options. You’ll be left with broke men and bitter women under Biden economics.
Do something. Take action. Put your money where your mouth is. You do this for yourself, for the future that you want and the family that you love. You want better, do better. You want results, take action.
I’ve put my money where my mouth is, with $47 to the Trump Campaign today. I encourage you to take an action like this too. Impetus to push for the life that you want, start with an action, immaterial if you’re single or married. Act for the life that you want.
LOVE + LUST
LIFE + LOVE
Action nets results. You are not naive, you know that Biden economics affect your love life.
If you’re a man, it matters if you can’t afford to take a woman on a date #ThanksBrandon
If you’re a woman, it matters if the man is wearing a skirt instead of you #ThanksDemoRats
You are not naive. You know that economics matter, it affects your love life.
If you want better, fight for it.
Also, action nets results.
My action today, $47 to the Trump Campaign. I want a lot in my life, and I won’t stop. I take action, I expect commiserate results.
Thank you 45, keep fighting for us. All my respect, to President Donald J. Trump. I pray that you will be number 47 too. God bless you and Patriots all around the world who’re fighting too.
Photo: Put your money where your mouth is. Yes, that’s my actual wallet, baby blue.