The below rant is from Olympian Lolo Jones during the PlanDemic, she was open about her fear that she’d end up alone as a single cat lady, I’m paraphrasing but read what she wrote for yourself, that’s the gist of it.
I am a woman too, I understand. For months, my sister has been offering to pay for a Match dating profile for me. Yesterday, one of my girlfriends brought up the dating app Hinge, that it’s free and I should sign up for that. “You’re getting older” is the refrain that all the single ladies hear from their well-meaning friends. I understand, I am a woman too.
I’m adamant that you can live off hope for a long time.
Lolo Jones said in her rant that “You give up hope” by this, she meant that she was losing hope, that she’d find someone special.
I’m vehement that you must always have hope, you keep that alive.
KEEP HOPE ALIVE
I push this in my life and with my personal friends.
To my one guy friend, a few months older than me and single, I said to him in person “I firmly believe there’s someone for everyone” when he talked about the state of modern dating.
My other guy friend, is 2 years older than me and on a dating hiatus, burned badly in the love department. I’ve told him many times, there are many good women.
To my girlfriend, who’s 9 years older than me and single, said to her yesterday “Who knows, maybe this summer, you’ll meet someone amazing.”
That’s my mantra, I never deviate, that you’ll find someone too, if that’s what you want. Have hope.
If you give up, that’s on you.
My firm belief, there is love for everyone, if they want it.
On social media, I’ll get comments from Debbie Downers and Negative Nancies, almost always male by the way. These men will say that they “gave up” in the love department. That’s on you. You give up hope, that’s your fault that you haven’t found someone special. My lane is relationships, I can’t do my job, if I don’t advocate for love and hope.
People blame circumstances and others, they also sit on their a$$ waiting for love.
If you want love, you must WORK very hard for it, WANT it badly.
Why is it OK in the professional world, to work hard for a promotion or your business.
But in the personal world, you think that love is simply going to be handed to you on a silver platter.
No, Cupcake, that’s not how it works. If you want love in your life, two things are in play.
You get your equivalent. If you want better, than be better yourself.
If you want something, work very hard for it.
There’s no free lunch, not in this world.
You won’t get a pass in this life, to sit on your a$$.
Granted, I know you’re bitter when you see 10 million illegals in under 3 years of the dementia patient in the White House, getting free sh!t like money on Visa cards, free phones, living large in luxury hotels, meals covered. But I will remind you, that when We the People, have had enough, the tide will turn and it won’t be pretty. No, nothing in this life is free. That’s not an equilibrium that will last.
So right. In this life. For romance.
You need to WORK hard and WANT it bad.
Many times, in my Life Coach, I’ve done role plays with men to practice the cold approach of asking a woman for her phone number in public. In therapy, I’ve helped women trouble shoot how to have courage to get back out there after a break-up or divorce. That’s my lane, relationships. For my clients and myself, I push hard. Always keep hope alive.
The secret sauce is that attitude preempts everything.
If you feel down, if you’re depressed, then your vibe will be off. Rarely, are you killing it in work or romance, when you’re negative. Debbie Downers and Negative Nancies aren’t hot, no matter how you slice it. Negativity does not attract.
If you blame others and circumstances, as the reasons why you don’t have love, that’s on you. I know it’s hard. Life knocks you down. You do try. Until you don’t.
But here’s the secret sauce, that attitude alters perception.
Everything filters through this. Your attitude. It’s super important.
Pick your head up. Make a decision. WORK on your attitude. WANT it bad.
I am a woman too, I understand. I empathize with Lolo Jones, life can be hard. I mean, I don’t even like animals, so I’m definitely not up for the cat lady life.
I’ve had my friends push me too. And now I’m pushing you.
As President Donald J. Trump has said, direct quote “Never ever give up.” He means on your country, but the sentiment is helpful for romance too.
You can live on hope for a long time. The key, always have hope.
Put in your mind, to always have hope. You must WANT love and be willing to WORK hard for it.
In romance, you should WORK hard because its Connection that matters.
You should WANT love because that’s what will actually make you happy.
I like Lolo Jones, she’s a girl’s girl. Her rant was honest, heartfelt and I respect her authenticity. You and I, we’ve both been there too, hanging onto hope by the tips of our fingers. The key, always keep hope alive.
The secret sauce: Hope, Attitude, WORK hard, WANT it bad.
Hope. Start there.
Having a cat is fine . . . if you like animals. But settling is not, you push for more.
For love, you must WORK hard for it, WANT it bad.
Have the attitude of hope.
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Photo: Lolo Jones is an Olympian. I’d love to have her on my Stories podcast. I like her.
Goos one
Hope yes but be Open, be secure, take a chance …… stop the fear and be available!