Wealth + Attraction
“Women use wealth as a marker for attractiveness because they use wealth as a marker for competence.” Jordan Peterson, minute mark 25:15 in this Video
Jordan Peterson is a Therapist from Canada, he doesn’t have a current client caseload but he’s an experienced clinician.
I’m a Therapist licensed for clinical work in the US, I currently see clients where I’m employed at private practice in the Chicago area. I also own my Life Coach.
I try to stay apprised of current analysis from the best in the world, pivoting is the name of the game in my work, accuracy is essential.
Jordan Peterson is a male Therapist and I’m a female Therapist, I want to showcase that we agree on the topic of competence, with our gender differences in play.
Jordan Peterson is making the case that women value competence in men. I agree, that’s spot on accurate. It’s too simple to say that “women like money” and “men like youth and beauty.” We are human, we gravitate to things, sure. But it’s more complex than it’s simple. Nuance and accuracy matter greatly.
Jordan Peterson gets it right, he nuances the overly simplified concept that women like money, to drill it down to a specific motive, that women want competence in men.
As a woman, I concur that this is accurate, that competence is important to women.
As a Therapist, I routinely talk to females who divulge their thoughts and feelings to me in therapy. For many women, competence can absolutely factor into attraction.
Let’s translate:
If a woman is dating a new man, other ladies ask “What’s his job?” The translation, if he’s got a good job and he’s good at his job, you can be proud of him and he has the ability to be a provider.
If I ask a woman, if she can introduce her new man to her parents and friends et cetera, if she says “No” that means she’s thinking he’s not good enough for her. The translation, she’s embarrassed of him, often it’s his lifestyle or work situation that she’s ashamed of, she cannot be proud of him and most likely doesn’t view him as a provider.
If a woman views a man as a catch, most likely there’s something about him that showcases competence in something. The translation, she can be proud of him and she thinks he has the ability to be a provider.
This is neither a new concept nor is it avant-garde. Women like competence in men. It’s COMMON SENSE. Pride in that man that he’s a provider, is of core importance to many women.
It’s too simple to say that “women like money” and men like “youth and beauty.” The nuance is in the motive.
For women, they’re often motivated for safety for themselves and their children. A huge component of safety is caretaking which requires financial obligations. It makes sense, that women like men who have the ability to provide. Perhaps its innate in a woman’s DNA, desire for competence in a man. If a man can provide for a family, a woman feels safe and also proud of that man for his abilities which is de facto competence.
I want to give a poignant example that will drive home this point of competence being the ultimate desirability marker.
In 2020, Illinois was one of the first states to lock down during the PlanDemic, I gave the timeline in my Covid Substack. In 2021, the coercion to take the covid vaccine began in earnest. I have friends who refused to bend the knee to medical tyranny, they did not take the covid vaccine with its 1291 side effects listed on Pfizer documents. Individuals who made the decision not take the covid vaccine, were subsequently shunned and shamed by others. Many people lost their jobs and incomes, the cost of resisting coercion.
If you were a man who said “No” to taking the covid vaccine, perhaps you lost your job or your business plummeted, resulting in no money. Yet women with critical thinking ability, will look past the part where that man is broke, they’ll look at markers of competence. If that man has ambition and work ethic, he’ll have the ability to still come out on top after a struggle. That’s competence, that’s desirable to women.
I’m explaining with a real world example, that Jordan Peterson is right, that wealth is the outward marker for what women really want, which is competence.
You can be a man who lost his job and his money during the covid era, still be Top Tier to women.
You can be a man who was cut in a layoff or made mistakes in a business venture, still be Creme de la Creme to women.
You can be a man who’s desirable to women because you are competent. That trumps money every damn time.
Jordan Peterson is a man, he said that women like competence. I’m a woman, and I concur. This is COMMON SENSE.
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Photo: Jordan Peterson highlights that its competence that’s incredibly attractive to women. He’s right.