How to get a girlfriend

How to get a girlfriend

When you have no money

FOR MEN

This isn’t as dire as it sounds. It’s 2023 after all, where women won’t even expect you to buy her coffee and will happily bring you food. You can be broke, but if you’re a smooth talker or understand women, you too can get fed and fucked on the regular with minimal effort on your part.

Now this may not actually make you happy, as it’s effort in this life, that you will value.

But is it easy enough to do in the modern era as women expect very little from men, yes. Damn easy.

FOR WOMEN

I got a lot of flack for my Coffee substack where I advocated for women to have a modicum of standards. I stand by what I said, I have doubled down. Men who do zero for you, don’t give a Sh!$ about you. Ladies, is that what you want?

It actually matters if that man has a job, if he’s competent and if he’s ambitious in this life. You cannot change Biology and Psychology matters. Women will always notice and be attracted to a man who not only takes care of himself, but it also looks like he could take care of her and a family too. This isn’t a knock on the modern woman who has a job and makes more than a man at times, it’s simply an acknowledgement that you cannot change Biology and Psychology matters, for what women are intrinsically attracted to.

FOR ALL

The PlanDemic of 2020 - 2022 screwed everyone the world over. LockDown Illinois was one of the first states to shut down, churches and restaurants were the first to close their doors. The lockdowns were financially devastating for business owners in all 50 US states, families suffered. Parents couldn’t work, some kids got their only meal of the day from school lunch and schools were closed.

I have a friend who is a DJ, with “social distancing” and zoom weddings, his business hit rock bottom. I have a friend whose business plummeted 80% during the lockdowns. I have a friend who had to sell his million dollar penthouse in Chicago and move in with his parents due to financial duress. Iconic businesses in Chicago could not survive both the Antifa/BLM riots of the summer before and the covid lockdowns which finished them off.

I have a friend who was fired as a doctor from a New York hospital for refusing the covid vaccine. I have a friend who was fired as a doctor from both the VA and the University of Illinois hospital for not masking, testing or taking the covid vaccine.

I was public for my beliefs, I had strangers that I did not know, emailing me. They were choosing between their jobs vs the coercion of taking the covid vaccine. Every person that emailed me, I sent an exemption letter template and for Illinois residents, I sent an exemption letter that cited Illinois law.

My girlfriend met a man, who was at risk of losing his job as he didn’t want to take the covid vaccine. This did not deter her, she valued him for his beliefs.

The Lockdowns screwed everyone, some worse than others. If you lost your house or couldn’t make rent, if your children were hungry, if you were blackballed for your beliefs, then you had it very hard. Others were less inconvenienced, they found a new job but they never went a day without a meal. Whatever your situation, you are brave if you stood up to tyranny.

This is important. Although I advocate for men to make an effort and for women to have standards, you must vet for values. If that man is broke because the lockdowns destroyed his business, that’s not his fault. If that woman pressured you to get the covid vaccine when you didn’t want to, she will not have your back in other things. You cannot change Biology and Psychology matters, but so do values and your moral fortitude to do the right thing for yourself and your family.

It is more important that you appreciate a man’s values vs his wallet.

It is more important that you vet a woman for loyalty vs her bra size.

Be smart. You cannot change Biology and Psychology matters. A man with ambition will land on his feet, even if he doesn’t have money now. Intrinsic values entail that a woman will appreciate a man who has moral courage more than a fancy meal at the good restaurant in town. Think big, go for the Long game vs Short con

Value moral courage, choose as your partner, someone who will fight against tyranny too. That’s the person who’ll have your back when you need it as they’ve proved that they have courage in moments that matter. This is important.

FOR HOW ITS DONE

For men who do not have money, but they want a girlfriend anyway.

This is how you play it.

You be honest.

Tell the woman your situation. Let the chips fall where they may. If she disregards you because you can’t take her out on the town, you are better off. Trust me, I have the Stories podcast episode on Predatory Women on iTunes and Spotify. You dodged a bullet.

For the women, when you meet a man who doesn’t have any money.

Ask why.

If the reason is out of his control or circumstantial, give him a pass. You would want a man to understand, if you got laid off or fired or tried to start a business. You must be equally as gracious for what you would want for yourself.

Be honest.

If you do it right, you can still garner that woman’s attention and that man’s respect.

Your values matter more than your wallet. Take that to the bank.

I SAID IT. I STAND BY IT.

I’m not backing down, I doubled down. That men should make effort, and women are stupid to fuck for free. Have a modicum of self-respect, do not allow men to use and abuse you. You are fool if you do.

Effort in this life, is always in play. When a man does have money, he must put his money where his mouth is, the effort must be there for him to value you. It is important to vet a man, to notice the effort that he will make for you.

When a man loses all his money, if it’s for the right reasons or circumstances out of his control, he can still make an effort to impress you, this doesn’t have to be monetary. It can be time, it can be honesty, it can be acts of kindness, it can be advice. Whatever requires effort on that man’s part, can mean that he does value being with you.

My video Who pays for dinner is to remind women that an option on the table, is requiring effort as a measure of respect for you, that you should expect this from men. During economic boom times, one way to vet for effort, is if that man picks up the tab when he’s monetarily successful. Different rules apply during economic hardship. Now it’s an unprecedent time. People all over the world are suffering and in duress financially. This does not mean that you can’t have love in your life or find someone special. Anyone who only values you for your pocketbook, will leave you once you hit a rough patch. That’s not what you want. In hard times, you need love even more, to encourage and motivate you. Just because you’re broke, doesn’t mean you can’t have love in your life.

It’s been on my mind to talk about this, what to do when you don’t have any money. I’m cognizant of the times we live in, that many are in financial hardship.

Remember that it’s the concept that matters, that it’s in the effort that value is attained. The easy vet is if that man will take you out for dinner on his dime. But in unprecedented times when the WEF crowd tried to kill us all with the jab of death, locked us down and destroyed our businesses, we must allow for creativity in the effort department. Don’t be so narrow minded, that you think that it’s only monetary effort, that counts.

I stand by what I said, I’ve doubled down. That it’s effort that matters. If we don’t earn that man’s respect or that woman’s admiration, we won’t value them. For women, you don’t want to be the throw away chick or 1-night stand girl, that man ghosts you and now you’re crying in the Therapist’s office when he doesn’t call you back. Do not allow men to use and abuse you. Have a modicum of standards. I said it. I stand by it.

My friends in the state of Illinois who lost their jobs because they stood up to tyranny, they are RockStars, they have value. It’s value that you must vet for vs only monetary net worth.

If that man has no money but he’s brave, that’s your guy. If that woman encourages you to make a stand for your beliefs, she’s a keeper.

This is an important substack for me to put out, as right now, many individuals are in financial difficulty. I want you to know that love is in the cards for you, that you can still go after what you want in life and love, no matter your financial situation.

It is value that you seek. It is effort that matters. These things do not have to cost money. Mike drop. Go after what you want in both life and love.

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