If you want to be better, surround yourself with better people

It’s 7:41 am on a Tuesday morning, an October fall day in Illinois, as I write this Substack. This concept has been on my mind for awhile, I’m so happy to be talking about it now. This idea that we become better by surrounding ourselves with better people.

The last 3 calls I’ve received are the following:

1. 7:20 am this morning, my sister on facetime

2. 9:16 pm last night, one of my best friends, brilliant man

3. 8:01 pm last night, my best friend, good man

Look at your call log. Who are the last 3 people who contacted you?

The last 3 people who called me are in my inner circle.

This adage is neither new nor avante garde, it’s common sense. That you become better when you surround yourself with better people.

If your friends are bitter and negative, are you surprised that you’re a Debbie Downer or Negative Nancy.

I get it. Life is hard. Especially the Plandemic years that started in 2020, and 3 years later we’re still fighting medical tyranny with the onslaught of propaganda to the point where people are starting to put on the mask again. Yeah, the same mask that comes out of a box with large lettering that says, this product “does not protect against coronavirus.” Yeah, that mask. Life really has been hard, and we all are fighting.

We are fighting every single day. To maintain our sanity, to fight fear, to get back up when we are on our knees.

My recommendation for you, is find yourself an ally. You must make friends who think like you. You must put in your inner circle those who support you. Your real friend will root for your success and be happy when something good happens to you. If that person really cares about you, they will check in on you and be concerned when you’re having a hard time. A good friend will have your back.

I ask my clients this question, “Is that person someone you could call at 2 am.” Many times, you say you have a friend, but you’d be hesitant to reach out to that person for help. You’re embarrassed if you have to inconvenience them, you don’t actually want them to know you’re having a hard time. There’s nothing wrong with privacy, we have more casual friends than close friends in our inner circle. But it’s helpful to at least have one person that you’d feel comfortable calling at 2 am if you needed to. The litmus test, will that friend be there for you.

The last 3 friends that contacted me, are in my inner circle. They have made my life better because they are good people. Always surround yourself with those you admire and want to be like. If you put in your inner circle, those who are top tier, they will influence you to also level up and be better yourself. It’s very true that if you want to be better, surround yourself with better people.

Look at your call log. Who are the last 3 people who contacted you?

Level up. Look for top tier people. Surround yourself with better to be better yourself.

We all need a friend. It’s important. This should be your priority.

I chose Dr. Paul Alexander to highlight connection, click the link to watch the watch the video on Connection

This is what matters more than anything, the connection you have with those who are important to you. Family is what matters, friendship is what is important. Keep your priorities straight, look for connection above all else. That’s how you level up in your life. Surround yourself with better to be better yourself.

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Photo: facetime with my sister, love you Boo