Toxic Masculinity
It only took me 1 minute 29 seconds to address this on video Toxic Masculinity
No S!$& Sherlock, that’s all the time I need on camera to talk about this.
Since I got my baby substack, may as well belabor the point a smidge.
Let me be succinct.
For the people in the back.
If you’re a woman, you cannot let the demonization of men stand. You must fight this.
You live in this world too, you must interact with the other humans of whom half are male. These are your sons and brothers, you interact with men both personally and professionaly, these are your friends and your romantic partner if you have one.
You cannot live in this world and not interact with men.
It’s no way to live when men you admire and live with and love, are demonized. This is wrong. And you must say it’s not OK, you must advocate for men. You must fight this.
There is a direct attack on men, a demonization of anything male that appears to be an agenda to break down the family and society.
You tear down morals and masculinity, you break down the fabric of society and the family unit.
When I launched my Life Coach and my Stories podcast in 2020, I began to message about masculinity and morality. My lane is relationships, and my inspiration was the brilliant Therapist Jordan Peterson who was advocating for taking responsibility in your life. I thought to myself, men can only learn how to be a man from other men but men are motivated by women. Jordan Peterson is a man, and the men will listen to him. But I am a woman, and I must talk about it too because we need both the male and female perspective. So I started highlighting Alpha Men, and I would use the hashtag #MasculinityOnDisplay
I did a series of videos.
The reason I did the videos was because I thought to myself, I cannot be a woman and allow this demonization of men to stand. I must say something. So I did. Stay in this fight.
The degenerate world will tell you that you will get crumbs and you will like it. I know that you deserve more.
The messaging around masculinity and alpha that I was seeing on on social media, often consisted of beta males bragging that they “get a lot of women” aka they have a lot of casual sex and they called that alpha. I would see beta male comments, bragging that he’s an alpha because he “put that woman in her place.” When I saw those comments, I would be scathing and succinct in my reply. Those comments were from men who’d bought into the degenerate world narrative that immorality is what you chase. They had the erronious belief that masculinity is neither tied to core values or competence.
I decided to counter this with my own definition of Alpha. Which is that Alpha is going against the grain, knowing what you believe and trying to do the right thing when you can. I chose to highlight that a core tenet of maculinity is that you protect women and children.
I reject the degenerate world’s narrative that alpha is casual sex and arrogance without competence. I have my own definition of Alpha by design because I’ve seen that the immoral attitude that certain men have neither fulfills them nor makes them happy. They become pathetic shells with no direction and and empyt souls with no moral compass. I reject this.
My stand has been to advocate for the family. You cannot advocate for family without also being in support of good men who protect the family. I told myself, that although I am one person, I am a woman and men need to see women standing in support with them. That is what I’ve done, since 2020 when I launched my Life Coach and my Stories podcast. I have continuously highlighted Alpha men and utilized the hashtag #MasculinityOnDisplay to highlight good men. I’ve made a public stand, and I’ve advocated for Alpha Attitudes and encouraged Masculinity on Display.
In 2023, I ramped it up a notch with my Masculinity Crisis series. I will continue to put Alpha men front and center, to talk about important issues that matter to both men and women. I’ve had three incredible Alpha men for my Masculinity Crisis videos so far, and I intend to find incredible men to continue to talk about masculinity. These are the first three men in my Masculinity Crisis series.
Masculinity Crisis with Dr. Paul Alexander
Masculinity Crisis with Jaime Rodriguez
Masculinity Crisis with LTC Steve Murray
I’ve put my name and face to everything I do, and I’ve gone public in support of good men. I encourage every woman to do the same. It’s not enough to be aghast at the treatment of good men. You must make a public stand against the demonization of men. It is wrong. And you must say it’s not OK, you must advocate for men. You must fight this.
I’m a Therapist and I own my Life Coach, my clients who’re women want good men in their lives and my clients who’re men want to be happy with a woman that they love. Men and women, we need each other. It helps no one to demonize men and disrespect women. We cannot allow the degenerate narrative to stand. My lane for my work may be relationships, but I am a woman first. I’ve made the choice to make a stand for good men because I know that doing this is de facto making a stand for myself. We are all the human race, we celebrate our differences as well as support each other. This is what it is to be a good woman, support your family, advocate for good men and protect the children. We fight for this.
So right. My take on Toxic Masculinity
I am succinct. 1 minute 29 seconds for that video.
If you’re a woman, you must make a stand for morality and masculinity, they go together. You do this for yourself, your children and for every good man in your life. Make a stand, do not allow the demonization of men. It is wrong. Fight this.
I concur. Too many people have a skewed idea of what being a man is/should be. Just because you can pull lots of chicks into bed doesn't make you a good dude. I would actually argue the opposite. IMO, a man needs to have Integrity, Honor and Self Respect. If you are sleeping with as many women as possible, you simply put have no integrity. Your word must be your bond. If you promise the world to chick to get her in bed, knowing full well its all BS, you have no Integrity. Since you go from girl to girl, you place nothing above yourself, thus you have no honor. If you understand that the more partners you have, (for both men and women) the more likely you are to catch a STI. Why would you do this to your body. You have no self respect. I also agree that men need help fighting this fight. We do not naturally view ourselves as a part of an identity group (Men). We look at each other, as one of 3 things (Friend/Competitor/Adversary) generally speaking. Friendship is earned. If you aren't a friend you are likely a competitor of some variety and to be viewed with suspicion until proven otherwise. If you aggress towards me or my family/friends, you are an adversary. This is partly why men don't typically have large friend groups compared to women. It also leaves us at a distinct disadvantage when group identity is working against us.
I think you're right that we gals need to defend men. This cr@p about men not treating women as a gentleman would because we wear the pants and women disdaining and making men the butt of jokes because we need 'em like a fish needs a bicycle has to stop. It's as old as Adam and Eve. Clearly those are my words and sorry if they might need some clarification or might offend someone. So be it. I wish men would support women being women and women would support men being men. Enough detraction and passing on the blame. There's plenty to go around.