What to do when you don't even have enough money to buy Bud Light on your date

These days, your neighbors and your friends, are worried about their pocketbooks. #ThanksBrandon

I talk to a lot of people, the wealthy are more conservative with their dollars whereas the poor are scraping the barrel. Everyone is worried about money in 2024, even as demoRats and republican Rinos send 200 billion to Ukraine and give 9k stipends to illegals invading the US southern border. While you struggle to make your rent and only put half a tank of gas in your car, the Davos crowd and World Economic Forum (WEF) puppets decimated the economy with lockdowns in 2020 and now they’re trying to ruin our lives again with their climate change hoax in 2024.

I’m not in the financial world, but I do have Rick Rule, former CEO of Sprott, a company with 16 billion under assets, on my Stories podcast. Click on the below link for that episode:

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If you’re worried about the bottom line, you must apprise yourself of economics, geopolitics, financials if you plan to keep your money. These are interests of mine, I will continue to put the best in the world, on my Stories podcast to showcase these sentinel interests. My real lane by de facto of my work is relationships, I want to address the lack of funds for romance pragmatically.

What to do when you don’t even have enough money to buy Bud Light on your date.

You know you’re in dire straits when you don’t even have cash for that, heard Bud Light slashed prices and begged people to buy their product after they went woke.

I have friends whose businesses tanked in the lockdowns, there are iconic businesses in Chicago that did not survive the BLM/Antifa riots and then the forced business closures of the 2020 PlanDemic. I had strangers, who I did not know, email me because they were going to lose their job when they didn’t want to take the covid vaccine with it’s 1291 side effects listed on Pfizer documents. Doesn’t matter if my clients have money or if they don’t, everyone at every income level, is being conservative at minimum and straight up scared at maximum about the state of the economy.

If you’re single and ready to mingle, but don’t even have money to go on a date, what do you do.

Esther Perel is a couples Therapist, she recommends that you bring your date on outings with your friends, even the 1st date. Her reason isn’t financial, it’s to bring realism to dating.

I think that’s an interesting idea. I’ve advocated for putting dating into real life in this Substack, click on the link below.

Keep it Real

I’m not knocking the dinner date, there’s nothing wrong with getting to know a new love interest via this traditional route.

The reason I advocate against Coffee and Drink dates is because for the 1st date, you want to see that man make a modicum of effort.

Effort is the currency for initial interest.

Zero effort can lead to minimal interest.

We value what we work for.

I think that if you’re single and also poor, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have love too. Romance isn’t only for the rich, you deserve it also, no matter your income level.

How to reconcile not being a fan of the cheap coffee and drink date in lieu of having no money.

I think Therapist Esther Perel, is onto something. She suggests inviting your date to outings with your friends for the realism aspect, even the 1st date.

I like that, keep it real. But also, it solves your money issues. If you can’t afford a dinner date, but you’re going to the neighborhood block party or 4rth of July hang out, that’s an option for your date. The reason why I can get behind this, is that I’m looking for effort. And effort can be in any of the top three:

1. Money

2. Time

3. Public recognition

Of course, there’re other factors, but these are the most common and easiest to spot. Let’s break it down.

MONEY

This is the easiest to see, that man took the last 3 girls out for drinks because they required nothing more. But he made a dinner reservation for this woman because she doesn’t do drink dates, also she seems worth it. Men will always spend more when it’s worth it to him, and “sex on the first date” chick is rarely worth it because she’ll put out without dinner, so why bother. Men with money especially, dangle their cash in order to get sex fast. It’s effective, but it’s not effort, if you have it. Meaning, if it cost you nothing, how’s that effort, it’s not. That’s why I caution women that if a man spends on dinners, gifts or trips, that doesn’t always mean he likes you. He could be taking you to Paris and the next girl to Milan, this does not make you special, it means you’re easily fooled, if you think that money spent means he likes you. Look, there’s nothing wrong with going on a romantic rendezvous, but be smart about, understand the player. If that man has money, that’s NOT effort, ladies. Know the difference. Bare minimum, men who have good careers, should be able to take you to dinner. And while you settle for your cup of coffee on your cheap date, I guarantee you, that same man is making a dinner reservation for the woman who required it and for whom he felt it was worth it to do that for. Money is the easiest way to ascertain effort, is he tossing out drinks at the bar as an option or is he picking the nice place in town for your dinner date. It’s an easy litmus test, did he offer drinks or dinner? How much effort did he make for you? Money isn’t the definitive answer, but it can be an initial indicator of interest.

TIME

This one is very telling, also my favorite. Men who’re very busy, if they spend their time with you, that’s important to note. Now if you’ve got a guy who’s unemployed and blows up your phone, that doesn’t mean he’s interested, that means he’s bored and hasn’t got anything better to do. You still have to assess, does this man have a lot of time or only a little. Men who’re very successful, often are extremely busy. They didn’t get to the top by sitting on their a$$ eating bon bons, they’re very busy. Even your average Joe will decide how he’ll spend his time, it’s worth noting. Many of us have children, work, friends, hobbies and things that keep us preoccupied. This can be a little tricky because in the beginning when it’s new and exciting, even a busy man will blow off other things to see you. But if that man spends time with you over the long term, the effort is consistent, that’s important to notice. It means you’re important to him. For very busy individuals, when they carve out a piece of their life for you, that’s meaningful.

PUBLIC RECOGNITION

I like this one a lot, it’s less obvious than TIME and MONEY but it’s very interesting. Men who have a roster of women, want to keep their options open and want to keep those females separated. Those men don’t want to be harangued by nosey family members or be subject of gossip from their friends. That’s why men keep you on the down low, you’re good for sex in the house but not good enough to be seen with in public. Women intuitively know, that the girl that man is serious about, gets introduced to family and gets taken out to be showcased to his friends. When you meet no one and are never shown off, that means you’re most likely on a roster, another woman is getting introduced while you’re left at home alone. The wife is the automatic at the family Christmas party, the girlfriend is the one introduced to the business partner and the woman that man is proud to be seen with, is brought out in public. If you raise that man’s stock zero and if he’s dating other women he likes more than you, he won’t showcase you publicly. He’ll make endless excuses to keep you hidden, yet you think you’re special because he spends TIME and MONEY on you.

So how does this factor into being poor and dating. It’s the effort, Guys and Dolls, that you need to look for. Does that man make effort for you? The top 3: TIME, MONEY, PUBLIC RECOGNITION.

If you don’t even have money for beers, even the woke Bud Light crap, but still want to date . . .

Effort can still be made.

Therapist Esther Perel recommends bringing your date around your friends to make it real, even the 1st date. Your friends can support you, it’s more natural and realistic to your real life, is the reasoning.

I think she’s onto something, bringing your new romance into your real life is important, the sooner the better. Shows you’re serious.

The added advantage, this would be a way to date, when you have no money.

If a man lost business due to the lockdowns through no fault of his own, he may have resilience. If a man lost his job because he refused to take the covid vaccine with its 1291 side effects listed on Pfizer documents, that’s a man with integrity. Always pick men for intangibles and core character, that’s the man you want.

In the beginning, you’re trying to assess for initial interest and surface things are all you have to go on, when you barely know someone. Requiring effort from a man, is a way to weed out the fuck boys, beta males and married men looking for a side piece of a$$. It’s in the effort that we value anything. If you require nothing, why are you surprised, when he treats you like you’re casual.

Esther Perel is a clinician with 40 years of experience, I’m employed as a Therapist at a private practice in the Chicago area, we’re both in the therapy field. I agree with her, why not include your date on everyday life activities with your friends, even the 1st date.

Her reason, keep it grounded in real life, also keep the support of your friends around you. My reason, you can still ascertain for effort, even if that man doesn’t have money because of the economy. #ThanksBrandon

• That man doesn’t have it to spend for a nice dinner at a restaurant, but he can bring you to the softball game where he plays with his friends. That means he has to introduce you, see how you interact with others and also explain to his friends who you are, that requires effort on his part.

• That man is being frugal because he was laid off from his job, but he can bring you to the family brunch on Sunday. That means he has to introduce you to his mother, see how you interact with others and also explain who you are to his family, that requires effort on his part.

• That man is digging out of a financial hole, reviving his business after the lockdowns. He can’t bring you on vacay or buy you gifts, but he can bring you to the coworker networking event where he has to introduce you to his boss and the colleagues he works with, that requires effort on his part.

Oh, you don’t want anyone to know about that girl, she’s just sex for 1-2 weeks before you say Sayanora. Then pony up, you’ll have to pay for those dates, now won’t you. Well, in 2024, women will line up to fuck for free, there’s that. But you get my drift. If you don’t want to make effort in the public recognition arena, explain yourself and explain who you’re on a date with, then you can go the traditional date route where you keep that girl on the down low.

If you’re too broke to pay for dinner, yet you still want to date, then including your date on everyday activities with your friends, might be your ticket up to the bar.

Therapist Esther Perel encourages bringing your dates around your friends, even on 1st dates. I’m on board for this, means you can’t be a fuck boy, beta male and married man just looking for a side piece of a$$ because your mom is going to ask for an explanation and your boss is going to ask who that woman is that you brought to the work picnic. Be prepared to be more serious unless you want to get laughed out of town by your friends and family, if you parade endless 1-night stands to them. That costs, it’s effort. If you don’t have cash to splash, it may be a way for you to date. Quality women who will notice that you’re expending effort via public recognition.

Therapist Esther Perel has an interesting take on including dates into your real life even on the 1st date. I think it hits on the effort piece because you have to explain to your friends, family, coworkers when you bring around a new person. That’s work, a little bit of effort, it’s not nothing. Therefore, in lieu of effort in the MONEY and TIME arena, this may also be effective.

If you want to keep your dates hidden, be secretive, that girl is just the casual sex type, then be prepared to break into your piggy bank to pay for dates. Or keep fishing in the mini pond for low tier types who will fuck for free. Just remember, that while you look down on her for giving it up easy, you’re in that two-party equation too, you’re the same as her. You’re average too. Don’t forget that.

So right.

What to do when you don’t even have money to buy Bud Light on your date.

Look for free options, which can include outings with friends. Therapist Esther Perel recommends this even for 1st dates. I think it’s an interesting idea, the added bonus is that if you’re broke, you can still go on dates by showing up to your neighbor’s cook out, your sister’s brunch at her house or head over to your mom’s place to visit her. Means you have to explain yourself to your friends and family, that’s effort, there’s a cost to public recognition.

Listen, if Patrick Bet David took his wife to church on their 2nd date, you too, can figure it out. Even if that means incorporating your friends and family for free.

Effort’s the name of the game, remember the top three:

1. Time

2. Money

3. Public Recognition

Rock n’ Roll #LetsGo

Score that date with zero to your name and not a dime in your pocket. If others can do it, why not you.

Still costs. Called effort.

Perhaps that effort isn’t in money, but in time and public recognition.

Let’s see what you can do!

Romance is for everyone.

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Photo: If you’re buying woke Bud Light on your date, a quality lady is probably wishing you were broke, drinking water is preferable. If you’re voting for warmonger Nikki Haley, a quality woman is probably wishing she was anywhere but on a date with you #amirite