Why women hate BJ

Why is this even a question.

Why do women hate giving blow jobs.

Men are delusional if they think this is a woman’s idea of a good time.

You like breathing oxygen, do you?

Oh, so do women #EyeRoll

MEN

Every male friend of mine, will argue this with me. Their “go to” line, they knew XYZ woman, who loved giving blow jobs. OK, out of the dozens or hundreds of women that man has slept with, depending on the man, he wracked his brain to find 1 or maybe 2 ladies, that he throws in my face as “proof” and he think this makes him right. Don’t make me laugh. Hysterically.

It’s about as stupid as men telling me, that women do not fake orgasms with them. I did a video #1 Sex tip for women where I dispel that myth. But that’s another topic, we need to focus on blow jobs for this substack.

PROOF

I’m a woman and I know more than a man, how the average woman thinks. Yet men, who do not have vaginas, want to argue with me. They think they understand women because they’ve slept with a lot of women. Again, don’t make me laugh. Hysterically. You are showing your absolute ignorance and lack of understanding for the female mind, when you throw that nonsensical stupidity in my face. I am laughing at you. Hysterically.

I’m going to bring receipts. I will prove it to you. Although most men would rather live in their delusion than get really good at understanding women.

For every man who’s been in a relationship, after the 1-year mark of exclusivity, did the blow jobs precipitously fall off a cliff? It only counts from the timeframe when the relationship became exclusive, it’s your girlfriend or wife. If it’s not exclusive, then even if it’s past the year mark, that woman is still trying to get in good with you and the blow jobs are still plentiful, now aren’t they. So right. The 1-year mark. Exclusive. Are you getting spontaneous blow jobs? Thought not. What about the 5-year mark or the 10-year mark? The wife still acting super giddy to go down on you? Thought not. Eventually, a woman’s true feelings will come out, that means fewer spontaneous blow jobs for you. Now you have to ask or beg, it better be a special occasion like your birthday.

I don’t give a fuck how enthusiastic that woman acts for your 1-night stand or your affair on the business trip. If it’s not exclusive and if it’s not past the 1-year mark of you only having sex with her, then it means zero in terms of reality. Being enthusiastic in the beginning and before it’s exclusive, doesn’t mean she likes giving blow jobs. It means she wants something from you. If it’s short-term sexual gratification, it’s the ego boost or you thinking she’s good in bed or the compliments from you. She wants something, and she will act accordingly. It does not mean she enjoys giving blow jobs. It means she puts in her best work to impress, just as you do in the beginning stages of a new romance or a lust driven night. It does not count, it means nothing if it’s not exclusive and past the 1-year mark. It’s an act. For the man’s benefit.

The proof is after being exclusive and after the 1-year mark, is she still offering up blow jobs on the fly? Or is it because you ask or on your birthday? Thought so. It’s no longer eagerly offered, now is it. Because she doesn’t like it. In the safety of being exclusive and after the 1-year mark, she can let down her hair, relax and her true colors come out, that it’s not her favorite thing to do.

The fools who throw out their 1 example of a lady who claimed she loved giving blow jobs, it was an affair, 1-night stand, cheating, never exclusive, not past the 1-year mark most likely. Because if it was your actual girlfriend or wife, her true colors would have come out after exclusivity and the 1-year mark. The examples men throw out at me as if they’re gospel, are always women they dated short term, they did not marry. But go ahead, live in your delusion and be clueless about women. You are a fool, and I’m laughing at you. Hysterically.

I bring receipts. The proof, think about your girlfriend or wife past the1-year mark of an exclusive relationship, now you realize that I’m right. That’s the proof.

WHY DO WOMEN GIVE BLOW JOBS

1. Many women can’t orgasm vaginally, so they need oral sex. And it’s a give and take. If they want oral, they have to return the favor.

2. If it’s a new man, that woman wants that man to like her. The quickest way to curry sexual favor, is with a blow job. Men like it, so women do it. It’s that simple.

3. In the gradient of sexual activities, it’s just on the menu. You do kissing, you do blow jobs, you do sex. You end up doing it, just like you eventually order an appetizer or dessert off a restaurant menu. Call it habit or ingrained, it’s simply what’s done in modern relationships.

4. Men really like it. They bribe, plead, guilt and beg and eventually get a blow job. They ask, so they get.

5. Women want to be like everyone else, they will go along to get along. If something is societally accepted, women will play along because being “liked” and being “like” everyone else is very important to women.

WHY DO WOMEN HATE BLOW JOBS

These are direct quotes from women that I personally know.

1. Woman 1.

   It’s painful on my jaw and mouth, plus triggers my gag reflex.”

2. Woman 2

   “Less work than sex, but I won’t swallow because I don’t like the flavor.”

3. Woman 3

   “My jaw gets tired easily. I have TMJ so my jaw can lock up. I also have poor gag reflex. I just don’t enjoy doing it.”

4. Woman 4

   “When men watch too much porn, harder to get them off. Takes too long.”

5. Woman 5

   “I don’t like to gag. It’s not the most comfortable thing to do, takes too long.”

If you look at blow jobs very mechanically, it’s neither easy to do nor is it fun. It’s work, and it does little for the woman sexually. It’s a solo act, not participatory the way other sexual positions are. Therefore, it’s truly giving vs receiving. It doesn’t do much for her sexually, that’s why over the 1-year mark after being exclusive, women no longer volunteer. It was never fun to begin with, so why bother later, when you’re no longer trying to impress that man or get something out of him aka a relationship or attention or whatever it is that you wanted.

EXCEPTIONS

If it’s a new fling, a 1-night stand, an affair, the woman is cheating on her boyfriend or husband with you, it will be hot and heavy from the excitement of something new. When it’s non-exclusive and not past the 1-year mark, of course she’s going to claim she just loves giving blow jobs to you. This is an exception and enjoy this time. The combo of newness and trying to impress, are the reasons why she will say that she likes it. When those things wear off, she will change her tune. Just ask the boyfriend. Just ask the husband. #amirite

For every man who throws it in my face, that women like giving blow jobs, I would put money on the table, that they’re talking about a 1-night stand or an affair or something short term for which they never put a ring on that woman’s finger. Show me the man who 5 and 10 years into being married, still claims that the woman just loves giving blow jobs. It’s very rare, it’s not happening years down the line, when you’re stuck with each other. I’m not saying it doesn’t exist that a woman organically loves giving blow jobs, I’m saying that men who believe it’s common, also believe in Santa Klaus. And I’m laughing at you. Hysterically.

WHY DO WOMEN TELL MEN THEY LOVE GIVING BLOW JOBS

Myriad of reasons but I’ll go with the top three.

1. Some women have a calling card, it may be the blow job. She may have gotten a lot of practice, been given a lot of praise, gotten really good at giving them. She will be genuinely proud of this skill, she may tell men she loves giving blow jobs because the praise is equivalent to “enjoying” in her mind.

   Think of it like this. If you were praised for changing the light bulb, you were told you were the best who ever changed one, you were given a lot of attention every time you changed a light bulb, you too would go around telling everyone that you’re the light bulb changing pro. You would be genuinely proud of yourself for this. Doesn’t mean it’s your favorite thing to do or that sans said attention, you would even bother. But the attention and accolades are enough for you, to tell everyone and their brother, that you’re the king of changing light bulbs.

2. Women genuinely want to please men. And women are very savvy, they know that sexually, men crave blow jobs and will bribe, plead, guilt and beg for a blow job. If that man wants it that bad, why not tell him you enjoy giving them. It’s not hurting him to lie about this, and it ups your stock to do so. He wants it. And inside every woman, is a pleaser at heart.

   It’s like this. Men who are savvy with women, know better than to comment on a woman’s weight. It’s the kiss of death. You aren’t getting a blow job if you make a comment about her looking a little heavy, now are you. You know that women are insecure about their weight, that they constantly compare themselves to other women, that they’re very sensitive about this. If you’re a smart man, you try to alleviate her mind about the few lbs she’s gained or pretend not to notice when she’s a smidge chubbier. You try to be a nice guy, you’re trying to please her in your own way and mostly you just want a blow job. You know better than to give an honest assessment of that woman’s weight gain. Same deal. You try to please too.

3. Women like the reaction. This is the biggest reason. The real draw, is that the man enjoys it. If he’s happy, and the woman likes or loves him or even if it’s just lust, this makes the woman feel good to be able to do that for her man. If the man is sexually excited, then this is a good time for the woman. It’s NOT that the woman “likes” giving blow jobs, it’s that she "likes” the reaction from that man when she does it. If it’s a man the woman no longer cares about, those blow jobs will stop STAT. If the man doesn’t appreciate them and doesn’t give the kind of reaction that makes it worth it, those blow jobs will stop STAT. If that man makes her mad, those blow jobs will stop STAT. Women do it for the reaction from the man. That is the money reason, why women tell men that they like giving them. Because the actual mechanics do nothing for a woman and are actually a lot of work. Women say they enjoy giving blow jobs, but what they mean is that they enjoy pleasing the man behind the dick, that’s the nuance.

   Think of it in this way. The way that you get off on pleasing a woman you like or love, it’s the same for women. You know what it’s like to feel like king of the mountain when you please a woman. She wants to do the same for you. She genuinely enjoys your reaction, that’s what makes it worth it to her. The reaction.

HOW DO YOU GET BLOW JOBS

It’s simple.

Be super happy, grateful and complimentary.

If that woman loves you, she will want to please you and she will do them. And not just on your birthday.

YOU ARE WELCOME

Good luck getting what you want in life and love.

I say in my video on Dick Pics that I’m the only honest woman that you know. The reason is because I don’t know you from Adam and I don’t want anything from you. I can be honest with you in a way that your girlfriend or wife will not. You really think that woman who’s trying to get you into an exclusive relationship and wants you to be her boyfriend, is going to tell you that she doesn’t want your dick in her mouth? Get real. You really think your loving wife who cares about you, is going to tell you she dislikes going down on you. Get real. I’m the only honest woman that you know.

I’m trying to explain to you, how women think, so that you can be truly savvy and understand the female mind. The more you understand women, the more you can finesse women into doing things that you want them to do, including blow jobs. I’m trying to help men. I don’t do it for the ego stroke, trust me, every male friend of mine will argue with me and say that I’m wrong about this. I don’t do it to get sexual attention or a relationship out of you, I don’t even know who you are, you’re a stranger off the internet to me. I give it to you straight, so that you can be smart and savvy with women, that’s my motive. You are welcome.

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