This brutal truth, is as real as death and taxes.
You are not unattractive, you are lazy.
Case in point:
Look at all the people in marriages who try zero, they let their looks go, make minimal to no effort on romance and seduction, expend all their emotional and social capital on those outside the romantic relationship.
Then they have a break-up if they’re dating or get a divorce if they’re married. Suddenly, they hit the gym, watch their diet, lose weight, buy better clothes, get a haircut and all manner of things because in the real world, you actually have to make an effort to attract. Suddenly, they have a glow up, but that’s also translation for:
My ex was stuck with me or I thought my ex wouldn’t leave me, so I tried zero.
Now that the person is single, they are changing both their physical appearance and their attitude, if they’re smart and they want to attract a new partner.
And of course, the Debbie Downers and Negative Nancies, will tell me about the outlier who was fat and found love. That may be true, but doubt it’s true for you.
Meaning, that there are exceptions to the rule, but I doubt that will be you. An exception means it’s rare.
Most people match romantically with their equivalent. So if you’re overweight and your spouse matches your equivalence in physical attractiveness, that’s to be expected.
Listen, I believe love is for everyone. That means you, average Joe and regular Jane, can find love too.
I also believe that men and women value different things, and that if you also value intangibles and core character, you will be happier.
I am specifically referencing that the masses often want the minority, then they complain that the person they want, who’s not their equivalent, doesn’t want them back.
The proof is in the pudding, if you’re attracting who you want, you are realistic.
If you are not attracting who you want, it’s not that all women are b!tches and all men are dogs. It’s more likely, that you are after someone for whom you cannot match what they also want, it’s not equivalent. If you went for your equivalent, you too, would have someone.
If you want better, then be better yourself.
The good news, most people can raise their vibration with the actions they take, they can become more physically attractive and also work on developing intangibles and core character.
Rarely, is it that you are unattractive.
Most likely, two things are in play.
You refuse to go after your equivalent, you want better than what you actually are.
You could actually be better, but you refuse to do the work to be better.
You are not unattractive, you are lazy.
Watch the video, aesthetically fewer women will find a guy attractive if he looks unkempt. Realistically, many women will find the man in the video, after his hair cut glow up, as attractive.
You too, can do better and have better.
You are attractive, but you must make an effort. Romance and seduction take work, you must work hard if you want a relationship.
Love is for everyone, but WHO you get depends on how hard you work.
You are not unattractive, you are lazy.
Video: Tons of videos of fat slovenly slobs in their 20’s to 60’s who do the work, then look amazing, unattractive is only defined by lack of effort
