Well, my husband is quite handsome. And he keeps us in style. And he treats me like a queen. So they do exist, but I do feel very lucky. And I do agree, that how they treat you matters the most.
Great article! I can attest! Having dated quite a few, very wealthy, men….I finally committed to a good looking, physically attractive man with considerably less financial resources.
Fast forward 41 years and we’re still happily together. We’ve had an exceptional ride, and while doing it with less money…we have been faithful to one another, we’ve never done without, have always had what we needed, and what we may have “missed” was more than made up by these many years being committed to each other and to our children (and now grandchildren). Those other “wealthier” men—-not such a great track record. Sign me up for 40 more!
Could it be that men and women have grown to a more casual attitude toward mate choice? As we develop ourselves to a higher level of knowledge, experience, and enlightenment, our viable successful options are reduced. We are less inclined to "settle". With the vast quantity of initial undesireable options with todays electronic media, selection is actually more difficult.
A crude analogy would be some car manufacturers offer 4 color choices, others offer 12 or more. I find my selection has been quicker and more definitive when there are only 4. Imagine having hundreds or thousands of choices? Is it our inherent human nature causing this dilema?
Well said - and I would add that men need to consider the same when seeking a woman as a life partner - having no physical assets accumulated in my life myself, I sure am not looking to find them in a partner, either - sure, some money is needed for basic in life and a bit more would be nice... but ultimately, it'll be trust, love, affection, closeness, understanding, acceptance, etc,... ... that make or break the relationship -
Although I advocate for the intangibles too, those are the things that will make you happy
I am also pragmatic, and no woman ever is going to say that her ideal of a man is a broke man. It will not happen
Now if your wife stays with you when you lose your job or risk an entrepreneurial venture, that's good
But for attraction and for dating, being broke is not attractive just as being obese would not be attractive to a man. No man ever is going to say it matters zero how you look. No woman ever for initial attraction is going to say it doesn't matter if a man has no ambition and no money
Yes - fully agreed - and that pragmatic side in me, too, in this case, is indeed the main reason why I am still single - I have a job and can live acceptably in order, but there is no backup for financially supporting a comfortable life in retirement for two; so, I'll just keep working into and beyond retirement age, be grateful that, for now, I have only myself to keep alive, and continue the dreams :-) - by the way, love your recent post on 'Turn ons' ! well said ! good to read of someone else sticking to one's values instead of just playing along to get along - I got fired, up here in Canada, in autumn 2021 for upholding my 'nope... you will not State-medicate me!'- value -
Rich. handsome, caring, mister right even? blah blah. The real question now is who is there right mind would date a man who"s been vaxxed to the moon? Shedding anyone? There is less than 10% left of unvaxxed bachelors in Canada. At my age, none. Good luck.
yup - the tip of the pyramid of potential partners across society has been drastically narrowed during the last three years - both by the psychological make-up that people have been displaying, as well as by the plain and simple medical status now of people - the one good thing I realized early on already around April--May 2020 was that it now became so much easier to immediately recognize, even from a distance, whether a woman might be or is not of potential interest to me... masks were such an instant turn-off .. and thus potential time-saver ... sadly so, to all the above, of course, but that's the world they have created for us now -
That relationship looks a bit gay to me. 🤔
Well, my husband is quite handsome. And he keeps us in style. And he treats me like a queen. So they do exist, but I do feel very lucky. And I do agree, that how they treat you matters the most.
Great article! I can attest! Having dated quite a few, very wealthy, men….I finally committed to a good looking, physically attractive man with considerably less financial resources.
Fast forward 41 years and we’re still happily together. We’ve had an exceptional ride, and while doing it with less money…we have been faithful to one another, we’ve never done without, have always had what we needed, and what we may have “missed” was more than made up by these many years being committed to each other and to our children (and now grandchildren). Those other “wealthier” men—-not such a great track record. Sign me up for 40 more!
Could it be that men and women have grown to a more casual attitude toward mate choice? As we develop ourselves to a higher level of knowledge, experience, and enlightenment, our viable successful options are reduced. We are less inclined to "settle". With the vast quantity of initial undesireable options with todays electronic media, selection is actually more difficult.
A crude analogy would be some car manufacturers offer 4 color choices, others offer 12 or more. I find my selection has been quicker and more definitive when there are only 4. Imagine having hundreds or thousands of choices? Is it our inherent human nature causing this dilema?
Well said - and I would add that men need to consider the same when seeking a woman as a life partner - having no physical assets accumulated in my life myself, I sure am not looking to find them in a partner, either - sure, some money is needed for basic in life and a bit more would be nice... but ultimately, it'll be trust, love, affection, closeness, understanding, acceptance, etc,... ... that make or break the relationship -
OK, keep reading my substack #Smiles
Although I advocate for the intangibles too, those are the things that will make you happy
I am also pragmatic, and no woman ever is going to say that her ideal of a man is a broke man. It will not happen
Now if your wife stays with you when you lose your job or risk an entrepreneurial venture, that's good
But for attraction and for dating, being broke is not attractive just as being obese would not be attractive to a man. No man ever is going to say it matters zero how you look. No woman ever for initial attraction is going to say it doesn't matter if a man has no ambition and no money
Yes - fully agreed - and that pragmatic side in me, too, in this case, is indeed the main reason why I am still single - I have a job and can live acceptably in order, but there is no backup for financially supporting a comfortable life in retirement for two; so, I'll just keep working into and beyond retirement age, be grateful that, for now, I have only myself to keep alive, and continue the dreams :-) - by the way, love your recent post on 'Turn ons' ! well said ! good to read of someone else sticking to one's values instead of just playing along to get along - I got fired, up here in Canada, in autumn 2021 for upholding my 'nope... you will not State-medicate me!'- value -
BRAVO!!!
Rich. handsome, caring, mister right even? blah blah. The real question now is who is there right mind would date a man who"s been vaxxed to the moon? Shedding anyone? There is less than 10% left of unvaxxed bachelors in Canada. At my age, none. Good luck.
yup - the tip of the pyramid of potential partners across society has been drastically narrowed during the last three years - both by the psychological make-up that people have been displaying, as well as by the plain and simple medical status now of people - the one good thing I realized early on already around April--May 2020 was that it now became so much easier to immediately recognize, even from a distance, whether a woman might be or is not of potential interest to me... masks were such an instant turn-off .. and thus potential time-saver ... sadly so, to all the above, of course, but that's the world they have created for us now -
This masculinity crisis video is quite good!
https://rumble.com/v33arel-masculinity-crisis-rachel-maldonado-and-foster-coulson.html