In this video, Bethany Frankel age 54, is going off on a rant, she wants the married men to wear a wedding ring. She says your man is fair game, if he’s not wearing a ring. She also says it’s about marketing and advertising, that’s why married men need to wear a wedding ring.
She is not wrong.
This is probably what happened, Bethany is single and ready to mingle, perhaps she made a move on a man, only to be embarrassed that he said he was married. Then she took to Insta to rant against the men who don’t advertise their married status by not wearing a wedding ring.
She is not wrong.
MY TAKE:
My lane is relationships, I routinely talk to both men and women and couples counseling is my niche as a Therapist and Life Coach.
I absolutely role play with male clients who’re looking for love, we practice, this is how you cold approach a woman in public to ask for her phone number. I advocate that female clients who’re looking for love, should flirt with men in public in order to meet someone. I’m a big fan of putting yourself out there, making an effort yourself. I’m not going to denigrate Bethany Frankle for shooting her shot. Yes, if you are single and ready to mingle, you need to know how to ask a woman for her phone number in public as a man and you must be able to flirt as a woman. Go for it! Shoot your shot!
But if you put your big boy pants on as a man and ask a woman for her phone number in public, it’s hard to be rejected. And if you get your flirt on as a woman, it’s hard to get rejected. No doubt. It’s embarrassing to hit on a man who’s unavailable, it’s going to be a rejection. It’s awkward and discouraging, if you’re in the single crowd, to routinely get rejected. If you’re happily married, think back to what it was like when you too, had to put yourself out there and remember how it felt to get rejected. Have empathy for the singles, wear your wedding ring, so that the singles don’t feel like an idiot, asking you for your phone number when you’re not available to date them.
So OK, we’ve narrowed down what you should do (wear a wedding ring if you’re married) and also answered why you would do that (to make it less awkward in social situations).
Since I’m pragmatic, I’m going to highlight this piece, which is that often men who wear a wedding ring, get even more attention. This is the reason, females who just want a roll in the hay, don’t care if that man is married. They know that if he’s up for some fun, she doesn’t have to worry about it being anything than a 1-night stand. As a man, you may get more attention when you wear your wedding ring, but keep in mind, that the females who’re blatantly going after a married man, are low tier. It doesn’t make you the Big Man on campus that you get a lot of attention when you wear your wedding ring, it means the quality of the females is bottom barrel, they’re just after sex and their morality is non-existent. Top Tier men don’t want to scrape the bottom of the barrel with low tier females.
Another angle to consider, is that for the women who get up the courage to ask for your phone number, they think you’re single and available, that they feel incredibly awkward when they get rejected. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, you feel embarrassed when you shoot your shot, only to get knocked down. For the woman, if she’s a good girl who’s truly looking for love and a relationship, it’s easier on her, to know which men are off the market, saves her the embarrassment of shooting her shot with an unavailable man. And even if the man’s left hand with the wedding ring is hidden and that woman asks that man for his phone number, he can kindly state that he’s married, she’ll feel less rejected because the reason is legitimate. So think about others, remember your single days, don’t make that man or woman, feel the fool because they were brave enough to ask you for your phone number. Be kind. This world needs more kind people, especially in romance.
Another observation, is that men and women who take off their wedding ring, when they know they’ll be in social situations either personally or professionally, they’re in the low tier category when they seek attention by de facto passing themselves off as single. They leave the wife or husband at home, take off the wedding ring, act like they’re single, sometimes even accept the propositions they receive. If you choose not to wear your wedding ring, while your actual romantic partner has no idea that you pass yourself off as single, that says a lot about your lack of morals. You don’t value monogamy when you invite sexual advances and you want the attention that you inevitably receive.
Most importantly, if you’re a man or woman, you should value the romantic partner in your actual relationship. Prioritize your real partner. Act in public, how you would if they could see you or if they were with you. Make the romantic partner in your real life, feel important. Build trust by never acting like you’re single. Think about how you want your romantic partner to act when they’re on business trips or pleasure vacays with friends, then act the same. Safeguard your actual relationship if you want to keep your current romantic partner. Put them first.
All the a single ladies, it’s OK for you to be looking for love. If you see a man that you think is single, shoot your shot, why not.
But if you’re a good man and you’re not available because you have a girlfriend, fiancé or wife at home, then don’t pass yourself off as single. Tell the ladies politely, that you have a girlfriend or fiancé if that’s your situation. Flash your wedding ring if your status is married. It’s the kind thing to do, to market and advertise, for what is actually correct, which is that you are unavailable or married.
Single folks, go after it!
And if you’re not single, then please market and advertise correctly, wear your wedding ring. Let the singles down kindly.
That’s romance, Guys and Dolls.
That’s how you keep your relationship.
Video: Bethany Frankle, single and age 54, rants that married men should wear a wedding ring or else that man is fair game. She is not wrong
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