That man, hair thinning on top of his head and shuffling slowly, shows his age. Perhaps he’s in his 60’s or maybe he’s older than that.
It appears in the video, that he tries to speak to a young girl, perhaps she’s in her 20’s. It could have been for her number, if she wanted to go for a drink or any number of things.
Based on his looks and apparent age, the girl barely acknowledges him, definitely not interested.
Then his Porsche gets pulled up, the uniformed attendant says something to the young girl, perhaps encouraging her to take a ride in the luxury car or maybe putting in a good word about the Senior citizen’s net worth.
Whatever is said along with the presence of said Porsche, it changes the young girl’s mind, she jumps happily into the luxury vehicle.
That video visual is what I’ve been stating in my Substack articles for years. That both men and women, dangle whatever they have, to attract.
What I’ve also said, is that status, looks, money may get your foot in the door but it won’t get you a seat at the table to stay.
The reason I’m good at my job is that I’m ruthlessly pragmatic. My lane is relationships, I help my clients process and make decisions for their romantic life.
I know what works, I tell both males and females to forgo the cheap coffee date because I know what f$cking works in romance. And it is effort, it is putting on a good show, enough to at least garner interest, to get attention, to attract. You dangle what you’ve got, you make an effort to impress, you use what you have. That’s attraction 101, the basics, get your foot in the door.
Then once you get your foot in the door, you do the real work to vet a romantic partner. You decide if they get to stay, if the lust will translate into love in the real world.
You attract with the superficial, but what will actually make you happy is core character and intangibles.
That’s the trick, to balance attraction factors with depth. You get your foot in the door with the superficial, then you vet for substance. You get this right, you got a shot at real love.
I don’t fault the men for wanting to be sexually attracted to the woman they date or commit to.
I don’t fault the women for wanting competence as evidenced by status and money in the man they date or commit to.
The trick is attracting with the superficial then vetting for substance.
For example, that woman likes that the man can pay for dinner, has a good job or he’s the owner of a company. She likes the man for what he has, but she also loves him for who he is. If that man loses his job or makes a bad investment decision, he no longer has money, she’ll stay with him because she loves who he is vs only what he has. She values core character and intangibles like his risk taking, creativity, work ethic and authenticity. She’ll stay with him when he has money and when he doesn’t, she’s loyal and loves him for who he is not only for what he has.
For example, that man likes that the woman is pretty and he’s sexually attracted to her. But he’ll turn down propositions from other females who’re younger or prettier, even as his wife ages. He turns down opportunities for easy sex and new women because he values what he has with his wife, they’ve built a life together and he truly loves her. The respect is there, the loyalty is a choice and the sexual discipline is practiced even when he could have sex with other women besides his wife. He’ll stay with her because they’re a family, he loves her for who she is not just what she looks like.
Get it right, people.
You attract for the superficial but you vet for the substantial.
The ability to master both will be indicative of your ability to both attract and keep someone who loves you for who you are vs only what you have or what you look like.
Get it right.
It’s BOTH the superficial and the substance that matter in lust and love.
I am good at my job because I help my clients know how to dangle what they’ve got and improve on what they have, in order to attract. But that part is child’s play, not even that hard.
The hard part, the actual work, is to vet a new romantic partner. To find out, if you can actually love and live with that person, beyond the initial lust which will dissipate.
In the video, the Senior citizen male in his 60’s dangling the Porsche to the girl in her 20’s is signaling for surface.
Hopefully, he’s smart enough to attract with the superficial but also vet for the substantial.
And is she smart enough, not to waste her youth on the superficial at the expense of time wasted, when she could love someone for real and have children with a man that wants family, to be determined.
For every man that dangles his Porsche or splashes cash to impress, hope he also vets for substance vs only relying on the superficial.
That is all.
That’s romance.
Video: If that Senior citizen male with thinning hair and a shuffle walk due to his age, had been in a nondescript car, that girl in her 20’s would have turned up her nose and refused to get in the vehicle with him
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