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My best friend of 24 years is a woman of high intellect who took two years to accept me in that capacity and now trusts me totally. I told her if I have her trust I am just an inch away from her love. She said nothing. It was and is true.

As to you Rachel you are a real woman. Precious. Rare. Feminine. Too bad I were not a hundred years younger.

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You could flip this around, and ask about women that understand, value, and care about men. Have you done that?

In my own experience, the vast majority of women think that only the woman is the prize - that men have to woo her and please her endlessly. There is no concept that the man is also the prize.

The only kind of woman that I will associate with are the non-feminist women that respect and validate men. Here is an example of one: she asks, "Are men loved"? As an example, she cites that dying men call for their mothers, not their wife or girlfriend, as that was the only woman that loved him unconditionally.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2cKhA2w6-R8

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Hello Rachel! As a guy I like this article a lot. I am a life long single but I trey and be a number 3 according to your list. I make an effort to listen to the women with whom I am acquainted but then I try and listen to everyone; as there is a difference between hearing and listening . Sad note is that in some instances it can wind a guy up in the 'friend zone' as some women want that "

bad bot' type and I don't think too many women think of myself as a 'potential'. But life could be worse, I could be divorced and st my age it probably doesn't matter, anymore. Glad I found your page as I hope to read and learn a lot from yourself. Thank you!

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Rachel.

Coffee and keyboard. That looks like my desk. I don't really understand women but I treat them all with respect and kindness. My Mom taught me that. She also told me if I ever hit a woman she would cut off my..... I learned a lot from her. She was a country girl and taught me how to shoot a rifle and fish.

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Reference to Substack Question 5. Move to the Philippines.

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and don't bring her back to the West, where she will become a feminist

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I'm in the Philippines and there is nothing to understand. It's all about sex. Cheers.

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You seem ignorant of the fact I learned the day after I was born. Sex is NOT making love. It is a physical interaction ideally in marriage where the love has been made over years and where the expression of same is not possible by words, but is communicated in a sensory way physically that words could never describe. Give the steering wheel to someone else. Your ship is headed for the rocks!

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I do enjoy pancit

I don't enjoy your comment

UGH

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Just keeping it real. I love pancit.

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Not real, nor are you. Nice try though Pontiac. I met lots of males like you in my life. Shallower than a frying pan and with the appeal of a used diaper. Try to grow into being a man instead of using women for the receptacles of your dirty plumbing.

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Your real is out of touch

But we agree to disagree

And at least we both like pancit

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I don't like defining people in terms of types. In the words of Michael Caine from Austin Powers "There are two types of people I hate, those that divide people into two different groups, and the Dutch." (It's even funnier when doing the Michael Caine impression).

What you describe above could easily replace "women" with "people." And really, the bottom line is, you want someone who cares regardless of their exposure to women. So which would you rather have, someone who understands women...a type 2, but nonetheless does not care for women, or a type 3 which is someone who cares about women, but not necessarily has a lot of experience with them. Regardless of how you fall, you probably really want someone who cares without necessarily understanding.

Dr. Drew would say back in the day on loveline, the point is to find someone to work things out with. You each have your own unique issues, challenges, and glitches, the point is to work things out together.

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Gotta love the "types"

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Well Rachel, I can readily see you know about Type Three men...And, even as a man, I can readily see there are way too few...But then, I do not have much competition, which is rather selfish in a good sort of way...

I'm quite reluctant to talk about myself as I'm just human, and I am grateful God created me with the attributes I have.

All of the women in my life have been at least 10 years younger than myself, except one who was one year older than me, and that marriage lasted about three months as she was quite jealous. You see, I care about women (and even their offspring by another man)...That does not mean that I need to have sex with them, see them often, or neglect the current relationship I'm in...It is simply about 'caring' for their 'good' without reward other than to believe that is how God intended it to be.

Anyway, looking forward to learning more about your perspective on 'Learning More About Men' no mater how old I get, I am always open to learning...As I have posted: "I crave deep connections, meaningful conversations, people who choose generosity over narcissism and intellectual courage over effortless complacency. Character is what I do when no one is watching. Reputation is what others think of me.

Dr. Donnie Smith

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Not trying to one up you. I am an older man still working. I have in my list of "friends" women younger, and older who asked me to be their friend. I accepted them all, youngest at age 19 and oldest was 94 but died a few weeks of a stroke. The number is 8 at this point in time. They all mostly have been abused and hurt terribly. They ask me to take them out from time time to do things like evaluate a BF. Fine dining for hours and hearing their concerns. That is an integral part of my life. Rules are that there can be no romantic interludes, no touching, and complete privacy of what we talk about.

I do not break the rules but there are some who love to hug the daylights out of me and do so. I hate that but I soldier on because I care about them and refuse to hurt their feelings by denying them that comfort. (lie) Now you know I am honest.

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Well Donnie, competition is fun, is it not?

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YES I understand women, behind every successful man is a more successful woman.

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Wrong

Both men and women are equally successful

Cute saying

But BOTH men and women are equal, we both are successful

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Why did GOD make woman second---HE needed a pattern to make the second human better???

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The way it is David is that God created all things in an escalating value, that is man was the second last creation. Guess who was his final and best creation? Quiz time is over. Every woman on my list is mentally superior to me. I know some are in the top 1% IQ range. I wish though to confess that in my friendships with women, I get more out of the friendships than I could ever input into. I do this selfishly, and have told them that.

Problem is I got more and harder hugs which you all know I hate. It is a hard row to hoe but I am tough and will not wilt under the responsibility. (harhar)

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If you have that low of an opinion of men, I feel sorry for you. But you will find many feminists eager to share that opinion.

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The legal quagmire created by No Fault Divorce (originally implemented by Lenin and Trotsky in 1926), The Pill, forced subsidization of the killing of unborn children, the inappropriately named "Violence Against Women Act" co-written by Joe Biden, and anti-male family courts have allowed women to run amok, without any self-reflection, or appreciation of the GREAT society, built 99.999% by their men.

The near constant leftist/Feminist screeds to encourage promiscuity, lesbianism, and the gaslighting of decent men, is as much a crime against humanity as Convid. And, as with 9/11, Convid, endless wars in the Middle East, we find the entire plot cooked up by the most expelled group/Tribe of degenerates. For 4000 years.

So, until this woman writes an article detailing the mistreatment of men (we are tough, we can take it, but will not reward you for it), she is not taken seriously by me.

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Search "Stories Rachel Maldonado" on iTunes and Spotify for podcast episode 18 on Predatory Women. 1 hour and 8 minute episode. I care and advocate for the issues of men, and I put this episode out to help men protect themselves!

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I only found one in my friends and ended up estranging her. It was hard, I did care a lot for her but I cannot trust anyone who deceives and lies to me. It happened twice in my life. One was by a gal I was engaged to, the other by my X. Both were deal breakers for me.

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Rachel, much appreciated; however, men need to fight their own battles, or they are not men! N'est pas? Happy New Year.

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Men who understand women don't have much to do with them in the current social and legal context.

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I know plenty of savvy men

This is not a diatribe that men ALWAYS understand women or need to

It is my hat tip to the men who TRY and who succeed at it

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I do not judge myself in that capacity, I have 8 who do it accurately and openly.

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Dec 31, 2022·edited Dec 31, 2022

This is a two way street. I understand the impetus behind this writing is to specify men who have a better knowledge of women's psychological makeup in general to the ends of equipping women with a better knowledge about which men make for a better boss, colleague or romantic partner. This as drawing a conclusion of which men will understand and therefore meet a woman's personal requirements notwithstanding any man's requirements. As in let's butt heads until we all have headaches. The scope of this piece being all about what women find desirable. I wonder if she has written a companion piece about women's understanding of men and what they want? The social engineers, mostly in academia, in the employ of the globalist pyramid cap have been hard at work for the last 60 years exploiting the differences between the two genders in the "Cap's" interests. One of the 'Cap's' boxes being ticked is creating a divide that is seriously affecting family formation. The estimate being published now is that 40% of women will be single and childless by 2030. Only 6 in 1,000 men are now getting married and other gloomy stats that are the tell that human society's fabric is been torn apart in the interests of those who desire total control over each and every human life that will be allowed. This gal writing away had better wake up to the reality of events or be taken at her word that she is either irrelevant or worse, a sycophant of this agenda, wittingly or not.

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"Meet a woman's requirements" ??????

I am a realist.

I live in the real world.

I write for fun, to help out and to encourage conversations for connection and community!

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I don't worry about understanding women. If I happen to be with one, I just wanna know how to please her. Every woman is different in that respect. If you can't be happy together, what's the point?

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Stick with me

Oh there's a point

And I will have fun with future substacks on that exact point, understanding for community and connection

Rock n' Roll

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Dec 31, 2022·edited Dec 31, 2022

Are you a Simp or do you expect reciprocity which comes in many forms, such as mutual respect from and for the other? Good luck in your relations with women if your whole modus operandi is to supplicant your own being to pleasing every woman that crosses your path. Who are you and what do you stand for? Do you have any principles, boundaries or a moral compass the guides you in living your life? Consider a study of Natural Law as a starting point. Natural Law, as bestowed by a 'Creator', however you wish to define one, is the basis from which all humanity, women and men, draw our inalienable rights as sentient beings and the responsibilities we have under Natural Law or face the consequences thereof for abeyance.

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Not fair nor equitable to Rachel. Do as I did. Research. She is the real McCoy. Trust me. She comes highly recommended by a real man who makes you and I look like congealed dog snot on a cold brass door knob that is screaming, "I cannot breathe."

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Speak for yourself regarding any comparison to dog snot.

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You want -- haven't yet found, you mean? -- a man who "cares about me". Fine.

Do you, in the first and sensible place, my dear, care about yourself -- enough to eat right, exercise, and look and feel as good as your impressive lab results would upon such a self-love-and-care, first and foremost, ethical and moral outlook?

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"Self-care"

Now we are talking!

The buzz word of every Therapist #Smiles

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It must be tough, waking up every day, so determined to figure out the next critical, tactical, or strategic angle currently or imminently at the disposal of a potential challenger or competitor, rival or opponent, etc -- anyone, defined or not, that doesn't step out of your way, whom you can instrumentalize to your advantage. This comes across in your edginess.

Okay, you like to win. Fine. I say, win yourself first, because it doesn't seem like you're as interested in that as you are in clearing any particular other(s) with respect to your goal/objective.

I could be wrong, of course, even presumptuous, sure; however, only your heart of hearts knows, I could very well be right. If I am, how does that make you feel? Your reflexive response (conditioned defensive maneuver), substituting for the possible emotion-based, honest reply, might be quite telling here, and instructive if you're sufficiently decent and interested.

In the end, Rachel, all I can say is, try the Golden Rule for a week, even toward a concrete man, or, if it must be, the abstraction of men, and see if it works better or worse for you. Give it a fair trial -- that's all I ask. I believe you have the potential to find a better reason for being.

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Well said. To be honest, I am happily married, the length of which has always had us performing different, but equal roles. Her support, love and caring has allowed me to succeed. Benefiting us both. Our children, are happy, and have moral values, because I worked, she raised them very closely. When she has had a close friend get divorced, and enter the workplace, she has dropped them. One of her very close friends went through a messy divorce (her fault, she had an affair) and my wife told her to NEVER call, text or knock on the door. She lived a few minutes away. Her other friends, all gave her the "you go girl" BS.

I encourage women to vette their men carefully, and pay a lot less attention to how tall he is, or his Instagram showing his cars and trips, and much more attention to his loyalty, commitment and moral strength. Given current divorce rates, and the jewish driven degeneracy of the Zoomer generation, I have little hope men and women will come closer together, and work as a team, as our recent, older generations did.

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Vet

Rock n' Roll

And find a competent Therapist to help you process as you vet

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It’s actually Marxist Communist Propaganda that has infected our whole society.

Top to bottom.

From Churches to Synagogues.

Signed

A Jew

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Not up for communism

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I'm Type 4: I don't understand women and I don't pretend to and I'm not even going to try.

Stems from decades as a Type 2, many daughters. Mrs is the female reincarnation of Colonel Walter E Kurtz, so that doesn't count. She's like a man. A very tough man. Like a warrior sort of man.

Still can't figure you lot out, so I don't bother. I just nod, agree and say yes when that will illicit the desired response of "Okay good", which means I live to say yes again the next day.

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You do try! You got daughters, you gave it your best shot every time that little girl smiled up at you! Cheers

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Sounds like you have become emasculated...?

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I think that's a natural progression, with age.

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Are you older or is this a guess? I'm older, a boomer. I have raised a family, daughter/son and am still married to their Mother. We married when gender roles were a little more traditional but all things being equal we have respect for the other. My wife has never tired to domesticate me further than my own commitment to her and our families. I have never, I believe she would testify to this, tried to impose on her bailiwick. Not that there was smooth sailing always but that the mutual respect for each other always won through in those difficult times. She's a woman and I'm still a man.

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Mrs is a woman who, at 14, broke her leg in a motorcycle crash. Having no money and no access to healthcare, she splinted the leg herself, no pain relief, save for Lao Khao, rice whiskey.

Still has a bandy walk to this day. It's quite funny.

Builds a particular type of character.

Like the time twenty-five years ago, six women set on her at a beach club. She got arrested for beating them so badly a few needed medical attention. She got out of custody by laughing at the officers, "Six against one? Open the door!" They complied.

Or the large British skinhead thug she knocked clean out after he punched her.

Or the times she catches King Cobras in the house... and eats them.

So many other examples I'd sooner forget.

Probably not the best example of a woman for these delicate, introspective discussions about gender roles and the male-female dynamic, typical of the soft Western chattering class. Well, they are.

This is rural SE Asia and the same rules don't apply. Particularly in her case.

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Now that is a women of greater substance. My take is that women and men have much much more in common than the differences that separate us. Mind you those are big differences but still nothing compared to the similarities. We have survived after all by being a caring and cooperative species.

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Beautifully written and true.

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Thanks! HUGS!

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Dec 31, 2022·edited Dec 31, 2022

So what is the corollary to this regarding what men want if this is a consideration at all?

"Strong men make for good times. Good times make for weak men. Weak men make for bad times. Bad times make for strong men." Care to write the corollary for women to this quote?

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I at some point am going to engage you and will. I need to go to work though. You say things I would and will challenge down the line.

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Why don't you write the quote?

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