Know Your Role

Patti Stanger the Millionaire Matchmaker said “Learn how to cook, girls” as part of her advice on getting a man.

Now it’s super popular in TikTock videos and Insta reels to wax on about Feminine vs Masculine behavior.

That may be the latest talking point for the populace, but it’s old as the hills, as basic as biology.

Femininity vs Masculinity

My advice on gender roles is to simply get good at nuance. Know your role in context of who you’re with and complimentary to the environment.

How does this look in the real world:

• Work role may require directness and boldness, this doesn’t make you a man if you’re a woman, it simply makes you good at your job. Nuance.

• Friend role may require camaraderie and social skills, you may change up the cadence, based on whether you’re with your male vs female friends. Nuance.

• Parent role may require you to alternate between love and discipline, you may try both on for size, as either the mom or the dad. Nuance.

• Romance role may be the one where you can play the most, have fun with it. Enjoy and play, experiment and be creative. Nuance.

Of course, there are biological markers for males vs females. Anyone who denies that . . . well, they’re probably a demoRat . . .

1. I have zero problem if you like to highlight Feminine vs Masculine traits.

2. I think it’s a great if you get good at highlighting either your Feminine or Masculine traits.

3. I don’t think it’s a problem, if you occasionally veer into the traditional Masculine or stereotypically Feminine traits, when it’s necessary and helps your life.

It’s important to understand basic biology, feel comfortable in your own skin as a male or a female, and feel good about your gender role.

Although it’s black and white, your gender in relation to biology, you can nuance the behavioral.

You can tailor to the person you’re with in that moment and to the environment that you find yourself in. The ability to navigate social situations means you can nuance.

My advice on gender roles is to simply get good at nuance. Know your role in context of who you’re with and complimentary to the environment.

Nuance your role based on WHO you are with and WHERE you are.

Get good at this, the world will be at your feet because nuance is the name of the game. Rigidity in roles will not help you, nuancing will. It’s that simple.

Know your role in context of who you’re with and complimentary to the environment.

Nuance is the name of the game, especially in romance.

Video: I’m not exactly Susie homemaker, but I got a request for pot pies, so I rolled out the dough. Cooking can be both feminine and masculine, both genders do it. The nuance is in the person and the place.