Respect is essential in both the personal and the professional.
Because this is a relationship newsletter, I will focus on respect for the romantic.
For romance, you need to have real respect that develops into deep love.
I said it in this clip: I don't want your dick, I want your respect
Respect + Love are essential ingredients needed for a romance to develop into deep love. You must have both in a real relationship.
FOR MEN:
If you allow yourself to be disrespected, if you are not the leader in your family, you will not be respected. If you are a pushover, if you are solely controlled by your d!ck, if you lack morality, then you can never be truly masculine.
FOR WOMEN:
If you lower your standards, if you are controlled by material things, if you trade sexuality for money, then you will never truly be respected, nor will you ever be the epitome of femininity.
BASELINE
It’s a mistake to think that lust will carry you over the finish line. To err on the side of the superficial is to gamble in the game of love, you may lose big time.
I tell men to their face, if that woman loses respect for you, expect her sexual interest in you, to also decrease.
I encourage women to value real things over the superficial, with respect being top of the list.
If you start a relationship from an affair, it can be done but it’s a lot of work because you have to overcome the bias that you both know, what you are capable of, which is to be unfaithful to a partner.
If you start a relationship that’s transactional, it can be done but it’s a lot of work because you have to overcome the bias that it’s selfish in nature, based on what that other person can do for you and when they can no longer meet your needs, it’s over.
If you start a relationship in which morality is low as evidenced by porn usage of the male or the female having been active on OnlyFans, Cam Girls or any other type of prostitution, it can be done but it’s a lot of work because without morality there’s no true masculinity and the femininity is debased in pay for play.
If you want real love, you need respect.
That’s why those 3 scenarios are very difficult because the respect is not there, deep down, it’s simply not.
You can rebuild, you can change, you can be in relationships that come from affairs, that are transactional in nature or with a morality deficit. But it’s a lot of work, be prepared to do double the work to repair.
Two things are very important.
Actions that garner respect.
Be the type of person who deserves respect.
The pushover man and the woman with low self-esteem, it will be hard for them to garner respect. When you give a new romantic partner your time, attention, resources without vetting them and without also proving yourself to them, you are at risk for getting played. If the respect is not there, the lust fades fast, you’re left with nothing substantial.
More than lust, more than new love, you must have respect.
Respect is baseline, essential to developing deep love. You must have both respect + love, they work in tandem.
Respect is earned with your actions.
You are respected when you deserve that respect.
It’s a mistake, as a man to splash cash and expect that woman to love you, solely for that.
It’s a mistake, as a woman to entice with only physical attributes and expect that man to stay with you, solely on that.
When you only dangle the superficial, guess what guys and Dolls, the next new shiny thing comes along, then you get replaced. It’s not helpful to be bitter, the reality is that you made both micro and macro decisions, that led to the demise of what was only ever a superficial love.
If you refuse to vet a new romantic partner, if you won’t do the work, you risk having a shallow, superficial, selfish relationship that won’t last tough times that will come.
Often people refuse to do the work because they’re afraid of what they’ll find out. They would rather live in delusion, than do the work. Often, you know that either you or the person you chose, won’t pass the sniff test or any kind of real vetting. But instead of finding that out on the front end, you ignore red flags because lust and new love, are what you want. Shallow, superficial, selfish relationships seem easier initially, but they rarely last.
Analyze yourself and your romantic partner, think about the respect factor. If you truly respect that person based on who they are and their actions, you have a shot. If your newbie romance started off shaky via an affair, transactional in nature or a morality deficit, you can still rebuild and change, but it’s double the work. Be prepared to work.
Respect is more important than lust and new love. It’s paramount, it’s essential.
If you’re a woman and you can manipulate that man, you won’t respect him.
If you’re a man and you can control that woman, you won’t respect her.
Respect is valuing beyond the superficial, it’s actions that exhibit masculinity in the male and femininity in the female. That goes beyond Status Looks Money
The respect that’s crucial must exhibit in intangibles and core character. Actions are indicative of authenticity, confidence and morality. How you act, often showcases the level of respect, that you deserve.
Respect + Love = Essential
Actions that garner respect.
Be the type of person who deserves respect.
If the inward respect for yourself is there, you will pick a partner that you can also respect.
Respect is top for love.
That’s romance.
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Video: Respect is essential in both the personal and professional. You can see the Respect + Love as President Donald J. Trump says his farewell to Crown Prince Mohammed bin Salmon of Saudi Arabia.
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