I didn’t even know what the word “flex” meant because I’m a Millennial, not an overly hip one either. But this word is tossed around ad nauseum, after a few Insta reels on the topic, you get the gist.
Thanks to my business partner Jaime Rodriguez for getting this clip for me, in addition to being an un-hip Millennial, I’m also a horribly unsavvy one tech wise.
So right, this is a relationship newsletter, I’m going to stay on brand with romance related topics.
Which is that in LOVE + LUST we are all trying to get as good as we can, first to make a good impression to get our foot in the door, then later to convince someone that we are worth a seat at the table to stay.
Flirt
Crush
First Impression
Casual
Fall in love
Cute
Forever love
Connection
Whatever your jam, you too, would like LOVE + LUST in your life. Those who huff and puff that they don’t need it, actually want it the most deep down.
On Insta, the flexes on reels, pertain to if you can get as good as you can and then show that off too!
I’m going to counter that, with what’s actually the ultimate flex in romance.
WHEN YOU CAN WALK AWAY FROM STATUS LOOKS MONEY
I have zero problem with a man being physically attracted to beauty nor is it an issue if a woman is impressed with competence as showcased by money and status. You are human, you are no different than anyone else, that you notice the superficial.
But . . . can you notice and also walk, if that person doesn’t have intangibles and core values that would actually make you happy. That’s the million dollar question.
The degenerate world that pushes porn as normal when it’s ruinous and props up Beta Males like Andrew Tate, also wants you to think your biggest flex is that you fall like a covidiot for the superficial.
How stupid.
Succinctly.
If your biggest flex is for the superficial, I recommend you dig deep in your soul to contemplate what you value and also learn to think for yourself.
In romance, Guys and Dolls, the biggest flex is always if you can walk when that person only shows the superficial but not the intangibles and core values. Can you walk, that is the question.
If you notice that man’s money or that woman’s tight ass, this only makes you human, also average, fair enough.
But . . . can you walk away from a man who dangles money like a carrot or that woman who leans over you with big boobs. Can you walk from the superficial once you learn that person is not good for you or not good enough. The million dollar question, and can you do that.
I’m not impressed. When a man bows to beauty or a woman is swayed by wealth.
So what.
That makes you average, just like everyone else. Human nature, to admire the superficial. But a flex, no, that’s just you, acting on your base instincts.
Your goal should be to think for yourself, especially in LOVE + LUST.
If you cannot walk away from a pretty face as a man or ignore when cash is splashed as a woman, then you are average. You are also not thinking big picture which is what will actually make you happy.
If that person you like or love, has the superficial plus the intangibles and core values, that’s jackpot, Guys and Dolls. Hang onto that, very valuable and you will be happy.
But when you allow yourself to succumb to superficial, you are average.
The ultimate flex is when you can walk from Status Looks Money
I said it. I stand by it.
The ultimate flex, can you walk.
It’s not impressive to pine for what you don’t have or to pant after the superficial, that’s average behavior. What’s damn impressive, is when you don’t need the superficial for validation, you can walk if it’s not good for you or good enough, that’s the ultimate flex.
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Video: Thanks to my business partner Jaime Rodriguez for the video. Elon Musk “Offer me money, offer me power, I don’t care.” That’s the ultimate flex, the ability to walk.
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