Yes, I have two jobs, gigs on the side and my PROJECTS which are listed on my website.
Relationships are my lane, that’s the work that I do.
Job 1. Therapist
I’m licensed for clinical work in the state of IL, take in-person clients in Oakbrook and tele session for anyone in the entire state of Illinois.
Job 2. Life Coach
This has my heart, it’s my business. I launched my Life Coach in April 2020, I’m new to entrepreneurship. I wear my heart on my sleeve, I have big dreams. I’ve had clients from 17 states and Canada. I intend to have clients in every state in the Union and increased international clientele. Only Dream Big.
SAME
I’m the same person, whether with therapy or Life Coach clients.
You are super curious about the work. That’s why I’ve put on my Rumble channel, 3 videos that are the Therapist Take. Click on the below links to watch.
Therapist Take: What keeps you up at night
Therapist Take: Couples Counseling
For me, I can handle a lot. That’s the work. You listen to sexual abuse, what a grown man or an adult woman, tell you that they endured at 7 years old, at 10 years old, in their teens. That’s my job. You tell me what your step-dad, your cousin, your brother did to you. Both males and females, suffer from sexual abuse, it’s everyone that you know, whether they’ve told you about it or not, it happened. It’s very sad. That’s the work.
My style, is that I don’t dredge up the past as a prerequisite for work. The client tells me what they want to work on, we go from there. But your past influences your present, when there’s a block or you need to process, we go there. But for me, it’s when it makes sense and when you’re ready. That’s the work.
I can hear in 1 day, what some people won’t hear in a year or a lifetime. I know things that you do not, I just do. Other professions get the dirty laundry as well, police officers and attorneys, get the low down too.
But what’s different in my profession vs others, the police office is taking down the report or maybe even taking into custody the domestic violence perpetrator, the police officer is aware of what happened in a factual and action sequenced way.
But it’s different in my line of work vs others, when the attorney is aware of the parent’s drinking problem, there’s a court order for a breathalyzer test before the parent can see the kids, the attorney is aware of the consequences in a very sequential way with litigation process and court procedures.
But for me, I am with clients in the midst of a crisis or as they remember, I’m privy to the emotions behind it. I’m not saying that police officers and attorneys aren’t also aware of the emotions of their clients, they are but it’s limited in scope as their job is to take action steps, to help the client. My role is expanded, I may work with a client for weeks, months or even years. It doesn’t matter whether they reveal certain things or not, it’s subconscious regardless of what’s upfront with the conscious mind. I work with memory, emotion, history, bias and experiences in a very visceral sense that’s vastly different than both the police officers and the attorneys, their scope is action and sequential. Mine is emotion, memory based and often at the subconscious level.
That’s the job. I can hear in 1 day, the types of things that others will rarely encounter. Perhaps you’re privy to secrets a time or two, close friends or your romantic partners, will share with you. But your penchant for listening is limited, sharing is rare in your world. For me, I am aware all the time and it’s continuous and constant. That’s why this work isn’t mean for everyone or the faint of heart, it’s niche.
You’re exhausted when your 1 friend shares about their depression or that they’re getting a divorce, you can handle it in small doses. Imagine, that I have therapy sessions back-to-back, I have to mentally keep going, doesn’t matter what I hear. My current client needs me to be present and sharp, my next client deserves the same. Handle it. Keep it together. That’s the work.
For me, I am extremely good. I can do this work, not everyone can. You want your Therapist to be strong, they need to be able to handle it. It’s not the role of the client, to comfort the Therapist. The client must know that their Therapist, won’t fall apart on them.
For the secrets I know, I can handle it. But I am human too, some things get to me. For the clients who’re grown adults, it’s important to remember that it’s their choices, it’s their life, they’re adults. But for me, the part that gets to me, are the children, as minors, they don’t always get a say. It’s really hard when the children don’t always get a fair shake. That’s hard.
That’s why I was enraged when the Davos crowd, approved the covid vaccine for children. It’s one thing, if a grown adult, takes the jab with its 1291 side effects listed on Pfizer documents. But the children are minors, they rely on their parents to protect them, they don’t get a choice.
When it’s the kids, I get very mad. Don’t abuse the children.
Don’t jab the kids with the covid vaccine, that will make the girls infertile and give the boys myocarditis. 1291 covid vaccine side effects.
Don’t groom children, don’t normalize pedophilia, don’t sexually abuse kids. Leave them alone.
Don’t keep children from the other parent because the marriage fell apart and you hate your ex.
For the work, I see a lot of parents who use children as weapons, to triangulate, and punish their ex. It can be your ex-wife, ex-husband or ex-family members. This can be the current partner or a prior one, who tries to keep the children away from the dad or the mom. I have no patience for that kind of mental abuse.
Just because you hate your ex-wife or can’t stand your ex-husband, you should not keep the children away from the other parent. What’s wrong with you. Disgusting behavior, you should be ashamed of yourself, there’s something very wrong with you that you would use your children to punish your ex. Truly sick.
If there’s sexual, physical or mental abuse then you as the parent protect your children. That’s the line in the sand, you protect the kids.
But if you’re mad because your husband had an affair or your wife chose to be with someone else, that’s not a reason to turn the children against their mom or dad. Grow up. You’re abusive, when you use your children to punish your ex. Those are grown up problems, leave the kids out of it.
Expensive divorces, bitter child custody battles and fighting in court are the scenarios that I see play out. And that’s fine, you want to give a quarter of a million dollars to the divorce attorneys, that’s on you. You’re up for being bitter and hating your ex, that’s on you. But leave the kids out of it, do the right thing and don’t keep a child from their mom, dad or extended family members. You chose to leave, break up, get divorced. The kids did not get a choice. It’s wrong to use your children as a weapon because you don’t like your ex. You’re ruining the kids because it’s baked into the cake that they’re going to suffer, if they don’t have both a strong father figure and a good mother, in their lives. If there’s abuse, then you protect your children. But if you’re mad because the marriage fell apart or your current relationship is on the rocks, that’s NOT the reason to keep kids from their mom, dad or family members who love them. I can’t stand this behavior from grown adults who should know better. You think you’re hurting your ex, but you’re hurting your children.
For me, I have empathy for adults but at the end of the day, they’re grown-ups who make choices for their own life.
But the children, do not always get a say, that’s unfair to them.
As a Therapist, there’s a lot of estrangement in families, it’s very delicate work, I simply want to get it right. It matters, this is for the kids. I pray to God, that he gives me the strength and wisdom, to help when I can. The children do not always get a say, that’s why it’s heartbreaking.
For those 3 things:
Covid vaccine forced on the children
Grooming and sexual abuse of children
Parents using children to hurt their ex, estrangement as a weapon
Those three things, make me very angry. Leave the kids alone. Protect the children. Keep them safe.
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Photo: June 2023, the cover shot for my video on Rumble
Therapist Take: What keeps you up at night
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