Work Life Balance

This is what I tell couples who are my clients.

When you are single, you can do what you want.

If you are in a relationship, you have to negotiate and compromise.

You want to do what you want, then be single.

You want to be in a relationship, welcome to negotiation and compromise.

It’s that simple.

Also complex, but that’s the simplified version as applicable to romance.

We all want romance.

We do not always want to do the work for a relationship.

If your romance crashes and burns, perhaps it’s because you did not want to sacrifice for a real relationship.

Do what you want, be single.

Be in a relationship, learn how to negotiate and you will have to compromise.

It’s that simple.

For example, the new FBI Director Kash Patel just said in his acceptance speech that he’s getting to work “starting this weekend” that’s a direct quote. That means that Kash is going to be hitting the ground running, he’s working on Saturday and Sunday, that’s what he just said.

Standing next to him, is his girlfriend Alexis, she must know that dating a man like that, will require compromise because he has a demanding job. Their work life balance may look different than another couple’s work life scenario, that’s their choice to make.

For Kash and Alexis, when it comes to work life balance, there will be sacrifices. Kash will sacrifice, he will work a lot because he wants to succeed at his new job and because of the nature of the work. Alexis will also sacrifice, she won’t see her man as much because he’ll be working a lot, like on the weekends, that’s what he just said.

Negotiation and compromise, Kash and Alexis either outright discussed or subliminally understood, the sacrifices required to be together.

That’s how it’s done, Ladies and Gentlemen, no one gets a pass in romance.

• Sacrifice is at the heart of love.

• Negotiation is part of romance.

• Compromise is required in a relationship.

It’s simple, yet also complex. Those three steps are part of romance, if you want a real shot at love.

Doesn’t matter if you’re going for the 1-night stand, casual situation or committed relationship, you too, will be negotiating in romance. The level of compromise will differ based on who that romantic love interest is and also on the level of commitment you decide to do. But no one gets a pass, not in romance.

You won’t do much for a quick fling, if that person is in the “just sex” category. You will negotiate, compromise and sacrifice when you fall in love and want to build a life with someone you view as special.

Negotiation and compromise are the name of the game in romance. How much, when and with whom are the variables, but it’s in play.

No one gets a pass.

Everyone will have to choose.

That’s romance.

• Sacrifice is at the heart of love.

• Negotiation is part of romance.

• Compromise is required in a relationship.

If your romance is dying by the wayside, chances are, that one or more of those components is off track. The big 3, SACRIFICE NEGOTIATION COMPROMISE, are in play, if you want a shot at love.

Congratulations to new FBI Director Kash Patel, he’s made his choice, understands the sacrifice to work life balance that his new role will require. His girlfriend Alexis was publicly on board and by his side, during his acceptance speech. Most likely, this couple has privately negotiated with an outright talk or subliminally understood, that being together would require sacrifice to work life balance based on their specific career choices.

Each couple will negotiate and compromise for their relationship because real love requires sacrifice. That’s romance.

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