Watch the video for a synopsis of the Situationship.
In the clip, it comes across that the female is in a casual romantic Situationship, but wants a committed relationship.
No judgement for this girl, most women have been there too, where they gave more than they got. The reverse can also be true, that it’s the man who pushes for more.
When you accept casual, but you want commitment, it’s this navigation and negotiation, until the relationship either progresses . . . or it ends.
That’s what I tell my clients in therapy and Life Coach, the nature of romance is that it either progresses in the relationship . . . or it ends.
That’s it, those are your two choices.
The dicey part is when you’re not on the same page with your new romantic prospect or actual relationship partner.
Usually, it’s the man who wants casual and it’s the woman who’s pushing for commitment. Although the reverse can be true, the female is the one who’s hard to pin down to be exclusive, I’ve seen that scenario with clients as well.
The dynamics in play are as old as time.
Women are the gatekeepers to sex
Men are the gatekeepers to the relationship
When you’re both wanting the same thing, the romance or relationship is simple enough.
When Person A wants casual and Person B wants commitment, you’re not on the same page, now it’s dicey.
Keep these two truths in mind, not the only factors but the most blatantly obvious.
The best women will require more, rarely will an absolutely gorgeous woman who has a lot to offer, be willing to settle for being the side piece or in a Situationship.
If the man isn’t the initiator at least some of the time (asks to be exclusive, asks to be introduced to family/friends, asks to marry the woman) he’s most likely not that interested or serious about her.
Life is dynamic, much is dependent on circumstances, personality, and experiences. Each couple has their own unique way to progress romantically.
But always remember, either a romance progresses in the relationship . . . or it ends.
If the two of you, are not on the same page to either be casual or committed, probably means rough sailing ahead.
Two choices: romantic progression . . . . or it ends.
When you’re evaluating a new romantic Boo, don’t just doggedly think about what you want. You must evaluate, analyze and assess what the other person also wants. If you both want the same thing, you’re off to the races, it’s simple enough.
If Partner A wants casual and Partner B wants commitment, then you’re most likely on the road to nowhere.
It works until it doesn’t because relationships either progress . . . or they end.
Be smart, systematic and strategic. If your new romantic Boo wants something different than you, read the tea leaves. Be prepared vs blindsided.
Hang on for awhile, be hopeful while you can.
But actions matter more than words, if that man or woman doesn’t want to move the romance or relationship forward, accept the inevitable or even be the driver to decide for yourself what you want.
Your new romantic Boo or actual relationship partner may care about you or enjoy the logistics of being an exclusive couple. Yet they also refuse to move the romance or relationship forward. The status quo is their comfort level, they may be at the limits of what they’re willing to give. Accept or leave. Only two choices.
Levels of commitment, moments of movement and the dynamic nature of romance determine the progression of the relationship.
But at the end of the day, the romance either progresses . . . or it ends.
You can want what you want, but it takes two to tango. You’re remiss if you don’t notice the obvious, either you’re aligned for your relationship goals or you want different things. If you want different things, it may be the beginning of the end.
It’s hard to force someone to move the romance or relationship forward.
You can choose to be with someone who wants you too.
The age old gender battle, a tale as old as time.
Casual vs Committed
Video: Synopsis of a Situationship
